to have expected DP to have called to check on me tonight?

[Mum2BeOfTwins0309]

Hi All. I am currently heavily pregnant with twins and have been booked in for a c-section (despite, following a membrane sweep, already being in the latent phase if labour) on Tuesday. (So basically, I could move onto the active phase at any time!)
DP hasn't gone out or socialised a lot with his friends during my pregnancy, but is at a friends house tonight for a 'boys night in'. Before he left at 8.30pm he said that he'd "call me later"... It is now after 4am and I haven't even received a text- AIBU to have expected to him to call/text as he said he would?! I'm so annoyed- I can't get back to sleep! :-(

oh dear, is he home yet?....maybe he is thinking its his last time out for a while and is making the most of it...once the babies are born make sure you take your turn too..pay back!!!

Oh poor you!

Maybe he just forgot, realised too "late", and didn't check on you because he thought it would disturb you....

I hope you're able to get some good rest today (hopefully he won't be too worse the wear from his last pre-child boys' night in..

All the best for Tuesday,

I agree with mm22bys. I wouldn't be too bothered, I'd be glad he's having fun. If I'm out I find phoning home a bit of an inconvenience, so bloke and I don't usually bother unless we're away for a while. If you have his number he'd expect you to phone him if there are problems. I wouldn't want to be thought of as someone who needsd "checking" on. That makes you sound very dependant.
Next time just agree that you won't make arrangements to phone each other. That way you can go to bed without wondering if you'll be woken up with a phone call.

YAB a bit U bit you are pregnant with twins so you can basically do as you please.

No i don't think YABU. It would annoy me too. I would consider him thoughtless and selfish. I remember how vulerable I felt when I was heavily pregnant and if my DP had done this to me I would have shouted at him! However there is no point in getting yourself worked up about it now you need to conserve your energy and focus on yourself. I'd let it go this time but 'remember' it for sometime in the future . Good luck with your labour and congratulations on your twins.

I would be annoyed that he had gone out with the boys at all if I was in labour, let alone with twins What would happen if you went into active labour and he had had a drink, who drives to the hospital?

I do wonder how someone can just go out and "forget" his wife is in the early stages of labour because he's having so much fun!

dearie me.he needs to prioritise.not gallavant without any contact.

fine to go out,but do return,and do call

is CS this Tuesday?
take care
rest

Thanks for the comments/suggestions ladies. He usually is very considerate of my feelings, but as some of you said, maybe he just wanted to enjoy his last night out (although I think they stayed in) before children... Don't know why they couldn't have met up last weekend though IMO
I think I might have been a bit hormonal- he eventually came in at 6.45am (I was asleep but think I was listening out for his return) :-(
I have a long memory (not that I hold grudges lol) so will have a full (contact-free) night out with the girls once I have stopped breastfeeding- God knows when that'll be!!!
Thanks for all the congrats and best wishes- my csection is indeed this Tues, assuming I don't give birth naturally within the next 2days
Thanks again! (I won't be letting him sleep all day like he'd want to- not that I'm spiteful or anything! Lol)