AIBU not to expect someone to phone my house at 10 pm when...

[pinkdolly]

I have 3 young children (6, 5 and 2) and am 36 weeks pg. Dh had just come from a meeting with these people so had nly just seen them.

They are members of our church so know about me being pg and we are quite friendly with them. But...

The previous night I had been up since 3am (not been sleeeping) so was ina real deep sleep. (obviously they didn't know this). I shot awake when the phone went and felt like my heart was racing and my stomach in my throat. It took me another 3 hours to get back to sleep after that and woke up at 6 this morning, so am feeling a bit fragile today.

And..

TBH, I dont know what annoys me the most, the late time they called or the conversation that ensued...

Here it is will call him R (the caller obviously)-

Dh- sorry about that had to pull phone wire out of the wall coz Pinkdolly hasn't slept last night and didn't want her woken up. (dh had rang him back, but he had woken me by that stage obviously)

R- Me and K (wife) are thinking about going away on the 9th April and wandered f you would have our 2 bordie collies for us for the week (we have babysat them for a couple of nights before on several occasions)

Dh- Any other time you know we would but Pinkdolly is due to pop on the 8th and it's a bt much tbh.

R- What if we make it the week before then?

Dh- Emm, no, sorry Pinkdolly is not sleeping and I will be at work unless baby already here, so still too much sorry.

So AIBU- to think that you shouldn't really pphone a house with young kids let alone a pg mummy this late in the day. Especially when you had just been with the husband and could quite easily have spoken to them the next day.

And AIBU to think that it is out of order to ask said heavily pg lady to take care of your 2 mad border collies the week of her impending birth.

I just think some people are truely bonkers.

I would never phone a household with young kids after 8pm.

These people do have grown up kids btw so surely they should no better.

So what do you think? Is it just my hormones making me all emotional, or do I have a point?

oh 10pm is my watershed - in fact given that I wirk 8.30-10pm is the only timeto ring me as I'm either working or doing bedtime with DS until then.

Mind you - I quite often dose off with DS anyway so you'd be wasting your time ringing me then too.

Not so unreasonable to ask you to have collis the week you give birth as presumably they hadn;t grasped when you were due, however once due date confirmed it is hilarious that they think the week before might be OK instead!

I am 34 weeks pregnant with number 4, looking after our 5 year old, 3 year old and 2 year old. I know what you mean and how you must feel. I am a bit more sensitive now but they are being a bit thoughtless. But I wouldn't get too worked up over it. They sound lovely people and have clearly forgotten what it was like with little ones and how tiring being pregnant in the latter stages is! I am generally assuming that, at the moment, I am more sensitive than usual and just letting things go. Better for my sanity and for the health of the baby which takes priority.

my DH best friend would phone in the early hours of the morning after having a few beers. It didnt bother me until we had children who are early risers. His children are grown up so i cant even say he was young and immature for an excuse..... SO......

one new year couple years back he phoned at 1.30am even though he KNEW we werent going out as we had a baby and i was working at 8am the next day so when i got up at 6am i returned his "happy new year" phone call - he has NEVER done it again !!!!