to be a bit hacked off at my sister inviting people to my house on Saturday eve?

[mrsblanc]

Massive family get tog at my house on Sunday for party after my neice's christening. Family coming from all over the country for informal eats and drinks after christening ceremony at noon.

My sister is arriving sat eve and staying over.She lives an hour away

Just had an email from her saying she has invited a couple all my family know but dont see much of , for drinks on Sat eve, hope that's ok.

Well it is ok really but I am a bit hacked off she did not run it past me first .

Should prob be flattered she thinks I am so laid back - I am mostly, just not in the mood to squeeze an extra event into an already packed weekend. and dh will NOT be pleased and will go in a huff.

AIBU?

I will of course not say anything to her as she has already invited them.

YANBU - my sister does this every time - where is the friendly phone call? I am usually flattered, but pissed hacked off that she just uses me as a caterer. My DH hates it when she does this as it makes me jump around the kitchen like a deranged monkey, trying to please everyone. DH says that next time she tries to impose catering on us, he is going to re-write the invites and send everyone to her house

thanks so much shytalk.
I AM flattered ... sort of!

If she had phoned , this time I would def have said no.

I am taking the christening party in my stride ( food for 45) but was looking forward to a calm before the storm night with just sisters.

I also think the real REAL reason is so she does to have to invite this couple(who are lovely) to her place with all the attendant fuss

Thanks again for making me feel not alone.

Tell me it will be great fun!

sorry, should say so she does NOT have to invite...

mds what a great name.
I like your style!
My sister is lovely and she is indeed coming over early to help with Sunday.

It's a hard thing to explain why it hacked me off.

It is like I am the family entertainer/class clown and they all disapprove, then trade on it when it suits them.

I love them dearly

anyone else

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YANBU - it is your home, she should not be inviting people over. At the very least she should ask you first. And you're already doing her a massive favour.

Warn sis that a drink may be all the friends get unless she forks out for a takeaway! Assuming they were invited for drinks, you aren't under any obligation to feed them too. Depends what time they're coming. You've had enough to do and spend on the christening without an extra unplanned event. Do you think she might get the message then?

Aternatively, say could this couple drop by on the Sunday afternoon instead, and still make sis do a fair amount of preparation/clearing up on that day?

The more you relent, the more people take advantage. Sometimes you have to spell out to them why they are the ones being unreasonable instead.

YANBU, and personally I would tell her that in future she should check first that it's convenient before inviting people. I'd also do exactly nothing to help her and these people. If she wants to host something in your house, then she will have to be the one doing the work and clearing up afterwards.

My sister would never invite people to my house without asking me first. That is extremely rude, especially when you've got a hoard coming the next night. If she wants to have a drink with this couple why can't they go to her house, or if sister doesn't live near you go round the pub. Pubs are a good place to have drinks and no-one has to cater. I would tell her not to do it again and if she wishes to see someone for a drink to invite them to her house or go out for a drink

YANBU. She should have asked first, hideous to have to think about entertaining sat night too - and no matter how much your sis will help it is still your house and therefore you will still feel like the host. I, too, would be doing deranged monkey jumping in kitchen in shytalk styley if it were me.

If she is really lovely with helping then I would suggest just hand it all over to her saying as you know sis I have such a lot on my plate as it is what with organising etc. things this weekend, you are very welcome to use my kitchen and facilities to bring whatever booze etc. you need for what you are doing. Is alright if I can be a guest this time?