To think a clean house is not harming our kids? Dh wont let me clean the house

[FannyWaglour]

He throws such a tantrum if he discovers I have cleaned the house, I have had to develop tactics for him not to notice. Such as not tidying before mopping floors, but move mess as I mop.

Does anybody elses partner not like if you clean?

erm nope, your dh is just weird

what's his reasoning?

yes, mine if i do clean

Sounds rather strange Fanny. Who does he think will clean the house? If he does it or you have a cleaner, fair enough.

I am a firm believer in a "peck of dirt is good for you", but there are limits!?

He says it will harm the kids to live in a clean house, dust and dirt is good for them, but the chemicals in washing detergent isnt.

I only use a little detergent. And I have to air out the house after.

I think a bit of DH swapping by the OP's of some of these 'Housework' threads could solve a lot of problems

Well, he's right on most of that IMO, but there is dirt and there is dirt, and there is clutter and there is clutter. And you really have to air your gaff.

I think antibacterials are dopey, and you can be overclean, but you don't want to go too far the other way, really, or your house will just be full of mud.

How about if you and I swap houses for alternate weeks? I don't clean at all so your dh would be happy and my house needs cleaning so there would be plenty for you to do when you were here

No, KingCanute, she's coming here first.

Sorry, I call dibs

fanny gaggy,

are you new?

no where near as good at the footballs,

or the stainless steel,

or the clear plates (with gravy)

I think having more than one kid and/or furry animals is reckoned to be good for you dirtwise ... sending them out to play in dirt is good... you don't actually have to have that much inside.

My DH likes clean and tidy ... but not if I move his stuff which is all over everywhere so I get moaned at either way

clear plates with gravy, ha blardy ha, and I dont make soap from you know what either.

I dont like ecover. it stinks.

Dittnay

Dusty dirty houses are definitely good for people, if more people had them, and fewer carpets, etc, then there would be fewer allergies.

And let's face it, why clean when dirt is good?

We dont have any carpets. I dont polish anything. All I want to do is dust with a damp cloth, hoover and mop my floors with a teeny weeny bit of detergent.

i think if your bog is clean and the dishes are done then you should put your feet up, people are far to obsessive about cleaning, i agree with your dh

Fanny, can you sneak a cleaner in for one hour a week to do the dust? Then you aren't doing it, the grotty bits are sorted and your DH's pride isn't dented.

Result

Hopefully

He says he rather a cleaner does it. But I dont want one.

So I dont really get it. I cant clean, but a cleaner can?

why would he rather a cleaner did it? Does he do any housework?

In that case, just concede one hour a week for the grot. I do, (well, two). It's the best thing I did since:

• getting a CM

-sending out the ironing (did this years ago)

• online groceries
• er, working ft and having coffees and conversation when I want.

But the cleaner is just great, takes a load off you, and why are you worrying about it?

I am just to be paying money for something I can do myself, and I am not so sure I would like a stranger cleaning my house, I am sure I can do it better.... I am possibly just oldfashioned?

Dittany, that is for people who have the condition. Developing a condition and making an exisiting condition worse are two different things.