To expect dh to share the care of poorly dd?

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Dd is ill and off school with a chest infection and severe eczema flare-up.

I was off work 4 days last week after a small op on my arm. I took yesterday off with dd and in doing so I let down approx 7 people and I only get a half days pay.

I asked dh last night if he would take the morning off to be with dd(my mum can sit with her this afternoon) and he said
No, his job pays the mortgage, we don't need me to work so I should be the one to stay off.

I'm really fed up it was only 3 hours and he wouldn't directly let anyone down like I've had to.

YANBU! It's his daughter too! What's he like in the school hols? Does he pull his weight round the house?

School hols don't count as I only work term time, he does do some housework now I'm full-time.

He made me feel really worthless last night, I work hard all day, go to college two nights a week so I can get a better paid job , and I might as well not bother because only his job counts.

Is he in his 60s? Have you told him how this makes you feel?

Rofl at him in his 60s- thanks for cheering me up!

No I haven't, I was just so upset last night I couldn't speak to him properly and just went to bed.

He is 30 beleive it or not!

When he gets back tonight, bring him his pipe and slippers and tell him about this new women's liberation thingy - he might be interested