Since birth ds2, I rush everywhere. I don't know how to stop rushing.

[Oblomov]

O.k. I know this is the wrong section really. But I wanted a spectrum of opinion, thus why I am posting here.

So, I pranged my car. again. I prang every car I have. I was rushing. from meeting my MN Pn group for lunch. I thought i had left in plenty of time, but traffic bad, trying to get back from the lunch, and to ds1(5) from school.

i rush every morning. I get up showered dressed. if ds2(5 mths) has slept through then he wakes at 7am ,miserable, crying for a feed. so I ffed him at 7.oo and manage to get out the door at 8/30
BUT, if he has a bf in night, say at 3.30.am, then he wakes at 7am all happy. not hungry. and I can not make him feed. he wants to feed at 8.30am just as we need to leave to get ds1 to school. either I feed him and then mad rush at 8.45. or I take him in the car, SCREAMING, sit in carpark by ds1's school and feed him and then need to pull him off at the last minute, mid feed,and ds1 and i run down the lane into the school.
either way, we are rushing.
same at hometime. ds2 sleeps 12-2 roughly. wakes up and feeds. i am sitting there willing him to finish, so that at 2.30pm i rush out door to get ds1. or i drive him screaming, then feed him in car park and have to pull him off. even if i wake him up earlier, he will not feed until he is ready. and thus it is always such a rush.

none of this makes for relaxed bf. I feel like i am rushing all the time. I can't see a way round it. I am bound to have another prang, in my car, if I don't slow down in life.

bump.
anyone ?

Poor you - no suggestions really. Just a reminder that this won't be forever. Their needs and routines change so frequently at that age. He'll soon be ready for solids which might help a bit - if he can munch on a breadstick or something on the way to school, it might keep him quiet.

I know how you feel - it is a bummer but it will get easier as they get older, having said that i'm still rushing about years after my DC were little, I am a little less stressed though. But you must make some time for you - somehow . Do you have anyone around who could help out just for a day so that you can slow down even for one day, take the pressure off?

Please be careful driving though, you don't want to injure anyone......

No, no come on guys, I need practical suggestions. please there must be some way, surely

The only thing I can suggest is trying to force DS into a routine that fits in with your day. It won't work straight away, and you will need to be string willed, and put up wih the crying etc. But it wouldn't hurt him at this age to wait an extra 15mins say for a feed, and if you gradually move each one to a more convenient time, he will soon get used to it.

Oblomov - I can sympathise. I have a five year old, three year old and five month old. And a Dh. And EVERYONE has to fit into my routine, otherwise I feel stressed and there is chaos.

In your situation, I would bf ds after taking the other children to school. I would also wake him up slightly earlier from his nap so that you can bf him more peacefully before the school run.

Of course I still do have my moments of immense stress, in particular when I'm trying to read the girls a bedtime story, and the baby just keeps on crying.

Belgo, I have tried waking him up earlier. But he just won't feed until he's ready to. What am I doing wrong ? How do I make him feed earlier ?

you're not doing anything wrong! If he won't feed any earlier, is it possible to leave your ds1 at school just 20 longer or so, therefore giving yourslef a bit of extra time to feed ds2 before rushing to pick up ds1?