Before Christmas DP rang DSD's school to make sure he got copies of letters, reports and to ask for an attendance breakdown. She'd been telling us about days off she'd had here and there, which her mum never mentioned, when she'd go to GPs house and watch telly because she "felt ill but wanted to have some fun as well" .
Nothing ever materialised and he never got round to chasing it until this week, as he and ExW are going to Parents' evening next week. Since then we find that she's booked two holidays in term time without consulting him as to whether it's a good idea.
So he rang Monday night and spoke to the head who said, yes no problem, will send stuff out, but I have no concerns.
Yesterday ExW rings up in a fury as school have been onto her "Are you aware DSD's father is asking for information about her?". Notwithstanding the fact that ExW thinks he has no say in her education at all now [sigh], nor that he is the one who does all her homework and home reading with her, I think this is a terrible breach of trust by the school. Am I right?
Legally they are obliged to furnish both parents with identical info, and I'm sure they are bound by a duty of confidentiality as well. What if this was an acrimonious custody battle? What if one party was abusive? This is definitely the sort of thing that would have tipped her over the edge a few weeks ago and made her withdraw contact again.
And no, he couldn't have talked to her about it first, as she has obviously been concealing the absences and isn't all that helpful/consistent anyway.