My mother has made me wonder whether I am being unreasonable in my expectations.
DD1 (4) had a playdate, during which the other girl informed her that her drawing didn't look anything like it was supposed to. She kept saying it, even though DD1 was upset by the comment. DD1 then got very upset and came and cried on my knee.
She said, 'Why did X say that?', and in the moment I couldn't think of anything better than, 'Well perhaps she wasn't thinking about how it would make you feel.' So then her mother made her apologise.
I was glad, as the apology made DD1 feel better. And if DD1 were to make another child cry by her comments, I would absolutely expect her to apologise. I think it's important for children to learn to think about each other's feelings.
But my mother says that criticising drawings is fair enough and actually seemed to think I was being inappropriate and perhaps embarrassing in thinking the other child had not behaved well. Her comments have made me feel a bit defensive and upset. So... am I being unreasonable?