To cancel my birthday celebrations this year???

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Plan was - housewarming/birthday party here at mine on the Friday (day before) most of my friends I know will have left by about 11ish so I was planning on going into town with those that were left so that I was in town on my birthday. Been planning something "big" (well big for me lol) for my birthday for nearly a year as it's my 30th and it would have been 1yr of being single too - but as DH and I are "seeing" each other again I'd decided to double it with housewarming instead of "singlehood").

Saturday I was going to spend recovering as it's DH's turn to have the DS's (although he's looking after them here), and then Saturday night was planning nice takeaway and wine with him.

Firstly he can't do the Saturday night - he's been invited out for a bit, and he can't really say no due to circumstances. I got over that ok - was still going Then today I heard that the main 2 people that would have gone into town after the party here can't come.

I've just had a cry on the phone to DH - who thinks I should just spend the money I would have spent in town on making the "do" here a bit flashier (you know nicer wine, nicer snacks) and then try and organise a night out in a few weeks time (next time he has the DS's).

I've only got 4 "confirmed" coming to the party and 2 "maybes".

I just want to cancel the whole thing

Good idea CI

Oh bollocks to it then - get whoever's available on the Saturday night and go out and have fun. Doesn't matter if there's just two of you, get yourself out.

can't do Saturday night lol - that's the night that DH can't say no to going out for a bit (short version - landlord has invited him out to something or other and really wants him to go, landlord has extremely generously let him stay for march for free...........) so I'm babysitting. Which was ok before I discovered my Friday night "pre" birthday celebrations had all gone to pot.

God you know can someone please fast forward the clock 15 minutes so DS1 has gone to bed and I can blub properly - then I may be able to think half clearly......

so get the kids into bed and have the girls over to your house (the ones who can make it), if there are any who cant because of their children , tell them to bring them for a sleep over, bunk them all down, they'll have a ball and you girls can have lots of booze and get some lovely buffet food in (M&S type) or pizzas and a have a good old giggle, some old tunes and maybe a dvd. what do you think? Get people to stay over and have bacon butties in the morning.....or do as previously suggested then when DH gets back, hot tail it into town

Is there anyone who was coming who would babysit for you and then when dh comes back after being out for a bit, the two of you go out? Or could you meet up with your dh in town later?

faq i actually cancelled a whole birthday one year after having had a spectacularly shit time in the run up to it

friends moaned a wee bit but the day went by without a mention (despite it being a biggie!) any way ..my advice is 'your' birthday do what 'you' wish x

..........right well thankyou for all listening to me as I held back the tears (didn't want to blub in front of the DS's) - I've since had a good cry and one of my "would definitely go out on the p*ss" friends who had said she couldn't come because of her DS has come up with a plan. which I've just ok'ed with DH.........

I have a few emails/phonecalls to make in the morning/now.

She's going to bring her DS over here, he'll camp down on a small single sofa bed in my DS1's room, DS1 will sleep on DS2's bottom bunk in DS2/3's room. And my DH will "babysit" all 4 of them overnight.

Friend will crawl/crash into my DS1's room (where her DS will be sleeping) when we get back and attempt to climb the ladder to DS1's midsleeper - and I'll crash into bed next to DH.

you knew id see this didnt you lmao!!! Get your messages out!!

I know - I did consider not posting it but I had to let it out somewhere

but please see my 19.36 post

i know you did, never thought it was in any way a guilt trip or some such.
Ive read the thread so i know

sunds like a plan ive got a choice of vodka and coke or cherry sours!!!

well Co-op had a special on the Magners that finished yesterday - was 6 bottles for £4.99 - bloody bargain for Magners (although they had LOADS left so I suspect it may continue longer) so decided to stock up

DH and I drink them sometimes when he's over too - so 16 magners isn't really too many..........although I'm going to have to rejiggle to fit wine and soft drinks in there as well as food for the party..........

and I'd better crack on with my housework - sorted the kitchen today (look at my profile - 4 before and 4 after phtos)

no they change promo's 3 weekly [has contact's emoticon] that gives you the excuse to drink some more then.

ahh - that's useful to know

Well - have a FAB time

Hope it all works out really well

I think my last really successful birthday celebration was for my 26th birthday, and I turn 40 this summer! And even on that one, someone had a bit of a ruck and walked out in a huff. On my 33rd birthday dp and I had one of the biggest rows we ever had, we were going out to someone else's 50th birthday party and I went on my own, in tears.