To be upset that my friend didn't reprimand her child for hitting mine

[LucyEllensmummy]

My friend has just visited with her DD. They were playing upstairs (both 3.5, friend a tad older) when DD started crying - this girl had hit my DD with a wooden play sword, in the face!! I was cross, but didn't say anything to the girl as her mum was there so i was expecting her to tell her off - I just comforted my own DD who was sobbing. Then the other child demanded to go - good i thought, so her mum took her downstairs, but when i came downstairs child had started playing with my DDs toys and refused to go!! FFS - i told her that me and DD were going to do some cooking now so she would have to go.

I feel quite upset for my DD as this is the final straw for me, my DD, for some reason, is really attached to this girl but i get the impression that she doesn't like my DD. She tends to ignore her when other children around and can be quite blatant about blanking her. I have posted on here before as i have questioned whether the friendship is worth pushing as i do get on with her mum, but not after this - she could have really hurt my DD. My Poor DD was so upset - if it had been the other way around i would have gone ballistic at DD. Well i would have been very cross and let her know this somehow.

I would be very angry with my DD if she whacked another child in the face and vice versa!...the child sounds spoilt as hell and the mother isn't helping her by not saying what she is doing is unacceptable 'although she may be stressed at the mo'...why should your child have to deal with that??...and tbh I would feel the same...my child does not deserve to suffer at the hands of another child even if she is 3yrs old!...I've had a similar situation the mum was a very good friend of mine but she told her daughter off and even mine too when it was appropriate...I don't feel you are immature Lucy just reacting like a mum

I think it really matters if your child is the whacker or the whackee...it would be fine if your child was the 'accidental' whacker...but how about if they were always the tearful whackee?