to want my boyfriend to go (lap)topless...

[peachyfox]

We're going away for five days at Easter with three other couples and assorted kids (we don't have any but I'll be 5 months pg) and we're also taking DP's nephew who DP is something of a father to (both his parents died so brought up by DP's mum).
We haven't even had this discussion yet, but I know DP will without a shadow of a doubt insist on taking his laptop and spend quite a lot of time on it. I want him to spend time with his nephew who is 11 and can play on his own but still really needs some 'dad' time (DP's mum is single)
Noone else will bring a laptop I'm sure.
Does anyone else's DP/H need life-support away if removed from high-speed broadband? Drives me nuts.
Any idea how I should broach it, or perhaps AIBU and he should do as he likes? I'll have plenty of other friends to hang out with.

Try and arrange an "accident". Maybe run it over with the car?

YANBU and have my sympathy.

when we go away there is absalutely no computers or internet for me or DH and deffinatley no ps2 or xbox 360 for the kids, a rule we both decided on.

Is it for work, peachyfox? My DH is a solicitor and cannot, cannot, cannot be separated from his blackberry/laptop/phone, which means that his office and his clients call him ALL the time when we are on holiday.

The only time we've been left in complete peace was our honeymoon, and only then because I made him tell his office that blackberries don't work in Argentina (and no-one questioned that!)

It irritates the hell out of me, but we hope he will be made partner next year, and I keep telling myself that one good type of husband is one who provides for his family... I will be on maternity leave soon, so every penny will count...

I don't think YABU at all, as I know exactly how frustrating it is, but at the same time, I bet he doesn't really want to spend his holiday working either...

Can you explain how much you are dreading this, and ask for some ground rules? e.g. he can check emails etc for literally 10 mins a day by the clock, if he MUST work on holiday? Better yet, can he identify an internet cafe nearby where he can go every other day for a 15 min email check?

If it's for leisure purposes then I'm with DoThisDoThat.

Thanks for the advice, all. He SAYS its for his work which involves markets and sport, but basically his work will expand to fit any amount of time.
We'll be in the middle of nowhere and I'm holding out a tiny hope that there'll be no Internet connection at all. that would be bliss.
None of the kids have PS2 or Xbox so it'll be scrabble and fresh air all round...

his laptop having an accident. Can't say I've never thought of it.

Nice to know I'm not alone with this issue...

My ExH was inseparable from his laptop, pocket PC, and SmartPhone. This was a very large part of why he became the Ex.

You're on holiday, and spending all his time on the laptop is really anti-social. It's only five days.

I would hide his battery pack just before you leave, or remove it from the luggage.

laptop on holiday god no. We even ban the tv and no one ever moans.

He is on holiday not at work.

i would be v annoyed if my DH prioritised work over time with family.

YANBU. No one in our family brings a laptop on holiday.

YANBU - no lap top, no mumsnet and no work calls during holidays for us.