I have been friends with this person for 15 years (since school) and she is godmother to my dd. When dd was born she made a big fuss of her, bringing presents round and visiting lots. Dd is now 3 and over the past two years we have found that the visits have tailed off and she did not remember dd's birthday. I can let that go, but what followed really upset me.
She is getting married this summer and asked me and dd to be her bridesmaids. dd was very excited about wearing a princess dress. A few months after asking us, she told me, via facebook, that her wedding had been 'credit-crunched' and she was no longer having me and dd as bridesmaids. Not only that, but dd was no longer invited to the wedding! I really would not have minded if this had been clear from the beginning. It is just that dd was disappointed and her hopes were dashed.
I can understand that some people don't want children at their wedding. I also understood that finances may be tight, so I was understanding about this; although privately I was also a little miffed that she thought that facebook was an appropriate medium for communicating this to me.
However she then posted in her status update about how much she was looking forward to her holiday in an ice hotel in Sweden(or somewhere similar) and how much vodka she was going to drink. I thought it was a little crass to be posting things like this after using finances as an excuse for cutting dd from her wedding. I thought it was tactless in the extreme.
She has also not shown any interest in dd at all and I really regret choosing her as godmother. I am starting to re-evaluate this friendship and what I ever got from it.