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AIBU?

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to be annoyed at friend who has cancelled dinner plans?

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NewTeacher · 07/03/2009 17:54

We are a group of friends who were planning on meeting up tonight at my house. One of my friends is having issues so we thought it would be a good idea to help her out. I had arranged to do this next week but one friend lets say A said we should do it earlier rather than later and the earliest date was today. I was planning to be away this weekend but decided this was important enough to change my plans for and sent DH off to his parents as planned, DD decided she wanted to go with him to see her cousin. My friend A had emailed me earlier in the week asking whether she should bring her kids or not, I emailed back and said it was up to her whether she did or didn?t. I got no response so didn?t know if they were coming or not. Well today my family were round and were going off to see my brother so granny asks DS if he wants to go with and of course he says YES. So now I?m childless. I decided to ring A to let her know, she got a bit funny and said if kids aren?t there then I won?t come. I assured her kids would be fine without mine and there would be plenty for them to do, same as what they would do in their own house. She said no and is now not coming. She was a bit shirty that my kids aren?t going to be home but I could hardly say to DS you cant go to your cousins house could I?

AIBU to be annoyed as I cancelled my plans to arrange this dinner and because she was bringing friend B who can no longer come as no lift its only me and friend C!

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PlumBumMum · 07/03/2009 18:03

I would be peeved aswell, I can understand she may not want to bring her kids if yours aren't going to be there but as a mother she should understand these things happen, can she not get a babysitter, or can you not go get friend b

compo · 07/03/2009 18:06

why on earth would friend A think it would help friend B to have a night in with the kids?
why didn't you organise to go out?!!

NewTeacher · 07/03/2009 18:06

well the kids can still come so no need for babysitter really.

I can go get friend B as she's not far away.

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Twinklenips · 07/03/2009 18:06

I think I'd be a bit annoyed, but, you decided that it was important and you decided to cancel your weekend away without reference to your friend. Maybe she feels a bit uncomfortable that she's enforcing her children on you without yours being there.

I'd take advantage of my children not being there and get pissed!

Podrick · 07/03/2009 18:07

Which friend is it that you are having the dinner for? Is that one still coming?

NewTeacher · 07/03/2009 18:10

X posted there! I did organise to go out initially, friend A changed the plans!

Friend A also knew I was supposed to be away this weekend I said I would change my plans for this.

Friend C is still coming for dinner.

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wotulookinat · 07/03/2009 18:19

I hate it when people do things like this. DOn't bother trying to help next time.

compo · 07/03/2009 18:23

it's too complicated for me!
so you have the house to yourself tonight?
why don't both yuor frieds come for dinner alone? I thought the point was to help your friend out so why would kids be involved? don't get why friend A has cancelled completely, hasn't she got any one to look after her kids?

PlumBumMum · 07/03/2009 18:24

Go get friend b and have a piss up wtih friend c and a will be raging she cut her nose off to spite her face

oliviasmama · 07/03/2009 19:15

oh have a good night with friend C, eat lots of nice food and drink lots of nice wine and sleep on your own all over the bed.

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