to be upset/angry with DH for telling me how to spend 'our' money?

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I have ordered some items of the internet for my DD to make various Easter related items over the easter weekend (coloured eggs/easter hats/bunnies etc). When I mentioned this to my husband today he told me that we 'cannot afford these things and I need to be careful what i spend our money on'.

I am a SAHM and have been since the birth of my DD (we now have two children) in total 4 years. DH has always told me that his salary is 'our' money' and that I earn half of this as I am at home looking after the chilren full time.

I was really cross as some of the things I have ordered can be used again next year. I admit they are not essential but it was more his reaction that suprised me. It is not as if I went a bought myself some clothes or anything like that. (At the moment I am wearing a pair of maternity trousers (I am not pregnant or over weight!) a reduced price top pre birth of daughter and reduced price shoes.)

I am just wondering whether it is time to get back to PAID work and earn my 'own' money to spend as I please. I am so cross! AIBU?

Can i add that theres a lot of fab easter to do kits in the £1 shops.

I am currently the sole breadwinner in our family, as DH lost his job. When he worked, I earnt more than him.

When he buys things that I see as non-essential, I get worried that we won't have enough to cover the things we need to pay for, bills, etc. So sometimes, I get cross at him spending 'our' money on things I feel are frivolous. Its not that I feel this is my money in any capacity. It is his money as much as mine as we are a partnership with a DD. But it is a worry sometimes.

Maybe your DH does not see it as his money, but more that he is worried about the whole financial situation?

Is he worried about losing his job?
eg redundancy rumours flying around where he is working.

I can understand where you are coming from.

How much was it ?

TBH if it was a few quid on some craft stuff for a special occasion and you can afford it then i dont think yabu to treat the dc.

Especially if he is still buying impulse purchases for himself too.

My DH wouldn't dare comment on my spending as I would suggest we sell the house and downsize - he would lose his play Music Room and bulging contents of guitars, amps, CDs and vinyl. As my main hobby is singing I have a financial halo.

You need to ask your husband if your financial situation is ok. Who does the 'financial housekeeping'? Are you a bit like me & buys random stuff off Amazon/eBay that you don't really need? He's obviously worried, ask him what's up.

@Duchess379

You need to ask your husband if your financial situation is ok. Who does the 'financial housekeeping'? Are you a bit like me & buys random stuff off Amazon/eBay that you don't really need? He's obviously worried, ask him what's up.

Why have you bumped a 2009 thread ?? its 14 years old You would have had a 'zombie thread' warning

Bloody hell, at least one of the kids is probably old enough to be earning their own living this far on!

@Duchess379

You need to ask your husband if your financial situation is ok. Who does the 'financial housekeeping'? Are you a bit like me & buys random stuff off Amazon/eBay that you don't really need? He's obviously worried, ask him what's up.

Where/how the hell did you find this thread??

I swear some people resurrect zombie threads on purpose! As this one clearly references buying ‘Easter things’ surely even if you didn’t notice it was from 2009 you’d twig it wasn’t from the last few days.

Christ, why are you all getting bent out of shape?! I've just discovered Mumsnet yesterday. I didn't see the date. Ffs, why be so rude?

@Duchess379

Christ, why are you all getting bent out of shape?! I've just discovered Mumsnet yesterday. I didn't see the date. Ffs, why be so rude?

Mumsnet can be a brutal place, especially AIBU. Best toughen up if you're planning on staying. I mostly stick to The Litter Tray