to not find it funny when dh snorts when I tell him I'm tired

[emkana]

I'm a SAHM, children are 7, 5 and 2.

Dh works full-time.

Apparently I have no sense of humour and am completely overreacting.

Well I'm not snorting sounds like you have your work cut out

YANBU.

Tell him I said so!

Go and do something for yourself and leave him during the witching hour (6-7pm) with them.

He will snort no longer.

Of course you haven't and of course you are. Being a SAHM is one long round of sofa-sitting, chocolate-eating and clothes-shopping. Everyone knows this.

Leave the dcs with him for the day so he can discover these joys for himself.

And don't forget to snort when he's collapsed on the floor in a gibbering wreck when you return.

Your Dh doesnt understand. And why would he when he's at work all day. He doesn't know what you do all day everyday. My Dp is the same. I think he assumes the fairies come and iron his shirts, clean the loo and look after his children.

Does he ever look after them by himself emkana?

I went away for a few days last year and for a weekend in February and he did pay lip-service to it being hard work then, but all in all I think he still feels that what he does is superior.

Gosh I can't stand him sometimes.

Grr on your behalf emkana. Am feeling your rage.

Even if he believes what he does is superior he should at least have the decency to keep his gob shut...

Ah the tiredness contest!!!!!!!!!

I have 1dd (4) and 13 week old twins. I do the night feeds as hubby works (and have no problem with this...)

But when I say I'm tired and he just looks at me...I say, well obviously I'm not as tired as you because what you do all day is far more tiring, demanding etc than what I do...

Then disappear for 30 mins between 6 and 6.30pm, and magically he remembers what I do all day!

Leaving my kids with my dp never worked for getting the message through. He would willing look after the kids and have fun with them, but what always failed to sink in was the fact that I looked after them and cleaned the bathroom and changed the sheets on all 3 beds and hoovered and did the ironing and washing and shopping etc etc etc

is he the daddy from peppa pig?

if not beat his porcine arse with a stick!!

Agree totally nbee!
And the WORST thing is DH always says I worry too much about all that cleaning stuff... Oh, to think like a man does

mine says "whats new?" and rolls his eyes when I say that. He also says I've become very boring really unfair when he knows I've got some quite severe deficiencies which are going to take a while to sort out.

Book yourself a holiday, somewhere nice and hot and sunny - a fortnight should do it. See how easy it was for him when you get back .

Book yourself a holiday, somewhere nice and hot and sunny - a fortnight should do it. See how easy it was for him when you get back .

Book yourself a holiday, somewhere nice and hot and sunny - a fortnight should do it. See how easy it was for him when you get back .

Make it 6 weeks then!! LOL

No idea what happened there! Sorry!

Hi emkana. Remembered your thread from last week or so. Was wondering what was happening. Sorry things are not improving for you. Going to bed now, but just wanted to say hi.

a couple of days just isn't long enough for him to get the dejavu relentless here we go again ness of it all.

a week away, with no food left in the fridge, no clean clothes organised, the takeaway menus binned and MIL number cancelled from speed dial might do it.

then again, ten days just to be sure.

toomuch Yes relentless, that's exactly the word I'd use to describe being a SAHM.

emkana you sound really fed up. YANBU to be peed off at him not taking you seriously. Do you think he realises how fed up you are?