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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be fed up with my cleaning lady?

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nowwearefour · 06/03/2009 21:35

she is a very nice person and i trust her completely. she babysits for me from time to time and is sooooo good with my dds. Her cleaning is even ok!! the arrangement used to be 2-4pm on a tuesday. she then decided she wanted to come on a monday morning. not ideal for me but i agreed 10-12 with her. only trouble is she keeps on trning up at 9.30. doesnt sound like a big deal but after i have done the school run i wanted the time to sort things out a bit for myself before she turned up. i have tried the 'oh you are early or wasnt expecting you quite yet line' but it isnt working. should i let it go as it is only 30 mins or should i say something??

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ilovemydogandMrObama · 06/03/2009 21:39

I'd let it go -- just expect her at 09:30....

SingingBear · 06/03/2009 21:39

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oregonianabroad · 06/03/2009 21:40

If you can't accept it -- can't you give her a key? Can you not have a chat about it?

trixymalixy · 06/03/2009 21:41

Sorry, but i think YABU, good babysitters and cleaners are hard to come by!!

I would just let it go as annoying as it is.

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nowwearefour · 06/03/2009 21:42

that's just it she has a key and is often inside already working when i arrive home! yes i could have a chat but really just wanted to test the temperature a bit as to whether i was totally unreasonable to do so or not!! every week when it happens i think i must start a thread on that to see what others think!!

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willowthewispa · 06/03/2009 21:43

If it's really bothering you then tell her - otherwise how is she to know you're not fine with it?

Gemzooks · 06/03/2009 21:44

I think Monday morning is a very annoying time for a cleaner to come. The house isn't clean for the weekend then, and it's a stressful time getting kids to school etc. Could you suggest she comes later in the week, like Thurs or Fri? just a thought. if you really want to hold on to her you could say 'let me know if this is not an option but I find Monday mornings a bit stressful and what about we switch to much later in the week?

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nowwearefour · 06/03/2009 21:47

i agree it isnt the best time of the week. but i did make it clear when we agreed the time that earlier than 10 wasnt erally an option for me. it just means she gets home earlier to make her and her dh lunch..... so many different views it shows i was right to be confused!!! i am trying to live with it but it is annoying me!

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tigerdriver · 06/03/2009 21:47

Are you usually in when she is there? I have only quite recently had a cleaner and on the odd days I have been in when she's in, I've found it really weird. She's really good and we have a good relationship but I try very hard not to work from home or have a day off on her days.

Her times don't suit me that much but TBH I'd rather have someone trustworthy turning up than sort something else out.

VerynicenonacidicTits · 06/03/2009 21:52

YABU she is turning up half hour earlier so she can get back in time to make her dh lunch, how dare she have a life

If she is doing a good job then just work your plans around her, i wouldnt argue the toss over 30 mins, at least she is not turning up late.

Gunnerbean · 06/03/2009 21:54

Oh, one simply can't get the staff these days can one?

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nowwearefour · 06/03/2009 21:56

that is quite harsh verynice. i of course dont begrudge her her life but she agreed the original time and i was trying to accommodate her life by agreeing the change in the first place. i genuinely wanted advice on whehter i should say something or not as i havent done yet. i will try to just get on with expecting her at the earlier time.

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blueshoes · 06/03/2009 22:04

nowwearefour, why can't you just ask her to come at 10am as originally agreed? The more matter-of-fact, the better. He who pays the piper calls the tune and all ...

LucyEllensmummy · 06/03/2009 22:05

if it is really a problem for you, then be honest and tell her - you can't expect her to read your mind! If you are just slightly miffed, let it go. I dont think YABU, but maybe she has a reason for it? Ask her, she might just be eager to get it out of the way.

FlorenceofArabia · 06/03/2009 22:13

Oh why don't you just clean your own house?If she only comes in for two hours a week can't your family just clean up after yourselves instead of all this fretting? I don't understand why so many MNetters have cleaners

LucyEllensmummy · 06/03/2009 22:15

because they want one???? I dont have one and am I cant afford one, but i honestly dont think i could have one because im so untidy that she would probably never actually get to do any real cleaning

tigerdriver · 06/03/2009 22:17

LEM

having a cleaner makes you tidy up, so double benefit.

and makes DH happy as he would be doing the cleaning otherwise.

onepieceofcremeegg · 06/03/2009 22:18

Helpful post Florence

VerynicenonacidicTits · 06/03/2009 22:18

I agree with Florence, clean your own house if your unhappy, its not like shes stopping you from working when she comes 30 mins earlier

LucyEllensmummy · 06/03/2009 22:19

no tiger really, you should see the state of this hovel, id be mortified

FlorenceofArabia · 06/03/2009 22:19

Why are you jealous that some women pay other women to clean their homes? It really isn't that arduous to split housework between yourself, DH and kids - when they're old enough.

LucyEllensmummy · 06/03/2009 22:22

yeah it is florence, its dull and thankless work that i really don't enjoy and im not very good at it. I have actually been a cleaner once - i quite enjoyed that, but that was because the woman was barking and i swear she used to spring clean the place before i turned up. That and i was getting paid for it of course.

blueshoes · 06/03/2009 22:22

nowwearefour, just ignore the posters who think it is a crime to have help with the attendant implication that it is somehow exploitation. A thread about cleaners, aupairs etc will usually attract at least a few.

LucyEllensmummy · 06/03/2009 22:23

I don't actually agree with children being made to do housework either. Yes, they should help with the dishes and keep their room sort of fit for human habitation but other than that, i dont think its fair

FlorenceofArabia · 06/03/2009 22:26

Why is it not fair, Lucy? I'm talking about a bit of dusting, not sending the kids up chimneys.

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