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to not want to be bombarded by tits/porn (i.e. the sport/fhm etc etc when i go to the newsagent with my toddler?

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 11:05

hello
i am getting more and more annoyed about the ammount of porn in every shop i seem to go in -it seems so in your face constantly and now that my 2 year old is asking questions it's making me really uncomfortabl and angry.
I don't want her growing up with this sad and warped view of girls and women.
I know other people feel the same - so why oes nothing get done.It can't be healthy for kids to be bombarded with sex/naked women/the sport/maxim etc every time they go with mum to buy milk/cat food can it???
Somoene elso tell me i'm not going mad!!!!???

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edam · 06/03/2009 11:07

Agree with you. In my local garage, the official 'mens' magazines are on the top shelf with plain covers (polybags over the actual mag) but Nuts and Zoo are in full view of small children - and their covers are soft porn. Supermarkets are even worse.

Think it breeds very unhealthy attitudes to women.

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 11:18

anyone else??

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frankie3 · 06/03/2009 11:28

Also when I look at magazines with my 8 year old. Even Sunday Supplement magazines have inappropriate adverts, there was an advert for a perfume that had what looked like a 12 year old girl in underwear laying in a sexy pose in the grass. How to explain this?

VerynicenonacidicTits · 06/03/2009 11:33

What kind of questions does your 2 yr old ask? my 2 yr old only ever homes in on the childrens mags at the bottom shelf, he cant even see the mags on the highger shelves, and even if he is more interested in me buying him a charlie and lola mag

MillyR · 06/03/2009 11:33

I agree with frankie 3; it is bad that Zoo and Nuts are visible in newsagents but it is even more annoying that it isn't possible to buy a Sunday supplement that isn't full of sexualised pictures of young women.

jumpingbeans · 06/03/2009 11:37

If you ignore it, they will, can't think what questions a two year old could ask that would make you feel uncomfortable and angry.

screamingabdab · 06/03/2009 11:39

On a different but related note, I have just seen the Comic relief song by the Saturdays - lots of writhing in undies. Quite apart from the fact that they are talentless bints, it just saddens me that they feel they have to use such sexualised images to raise money for the charity.

themildmanneredjanitor · 06/03/2009 11:40

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CharleeInChains · 06/03/2009 11:42

I agree.

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 12:26

so what's to be done?????

i for one am writing to my supermarkets and newsagents and mp.there is also a good campaign re this sort of stuff at object.org.uk

i'm also printing off some of their stuff and posting it up around town.

i'm sure i'll get loads of people telling me i'm boring/a prude/that it's empowering blah but in my heart of hearts i think it's wrong and degrading and crap.

let meknow what anyone else thinks.......

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 12:26

so what's to be done?????

i for one am writing to my supermarkets and newsagents and mp.there is also a good campaign re this sort of stuff at object.org.uk

i'm also printing off some of their stuff and posting it up around town.

i'm sure i'll get loads of people telling me i'm boring/a prude/that it's empowering blah but in my heart of hearts i think it's wrong and degrading and crap.

let meknow what anyone else thinks.......

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NotPlayingAnyMore · 06/03/2009 12:40

Where do you draw the line between what's decent and what's not?
What is it that you'd want retailers and publishers to do about it?

When your sons are older, would you rather have them reach for the "socially acceptable" (I use the term very loosely) copy of the Sport/FHM/Nuts/Zoo from the middle sheles or the same thing in a black bag from the top shelf?
Because - let's face it - that's what some of them will be doing not much later on in life!

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 12:40

hey jumping beans thanks for the comment but i'm not really into 'ignoring'things that i think are important.soooooo many people just ignore stuff-the suffragetes would be gutted. i can't help if it bugs the crap out of me hey??

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 06/03/2009 12:43

I buy the FHM. I love it, it's hilarious.

screamingabdab · 06/03/2009 12:46

A newsagents near here started a campaign about porn because his suppliers (WH Smith, I think) kept sending him porn mags against his wishes. He had lots of local support, and national media interest. I'll try and find a link

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 12:46

notplayinganymore - i don't really care what your son wants to reach for.as long as he has to reach for it and it's not inmy face every single time i go to a shop that's fine.is that too much to ask.??????

as soon as you say anything re anti porn people argue about anti-censorship/empowerment/where do you draw the line etc etc

i'd just be happy not to see tits and naked women everywhere.

would it be crazy to suggest that there's a link between the normalization of porn and increase sexual bullying in school?????

let me know what u think.

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VerynicenonacidicTits · 06/03/2009 12:47

I want to know what your 2 yr actually says? as i would be amazed if mine asked questions about magazine covers

screamingabdab · 06/03/2009 12:50

I am not anti-porn, but I am not happy for it to be in the sight-lines of kids

screamingabdab · 06/03/2009 12:52

shazzaq Don't know how to do links, but google Hamdy's anti-porn campaign

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 12:56

thanku i will

am currently breast feeding and using the computer with one hand tho and it's taking ages.back soon.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 06/03/2009 12:59

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MillyR · 06/03/2009 12:59

Notplayinganymore, I would rather my son takes the black bag. I do not have an issue with pornography as long as the viewer understands it is a private matter that is fantastical in nature and offensive to many so should not be brought into the public arena. This sets up a division in their minds between porn and the real world.

My issue is the lads' mags, which are in public, mainstream and blended with articles about real life and real women. I think this leads to a confusion in boys' minds about what they should expect from real girlfriends. I think it also makes boys develop sexual preferences and tastes that are commercialised, and I believe people's sexuality should be about their personality, not about being cloned into someone who enjoys a commercialised, marketed version of sexuality that they have been viewing since their impressionable teen years.

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shazzg · 06/03/2009 13:03

well said millyr
you put it much better than me but then i have a 12wk old insomniac baby so brain a bit addled.

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screamingabdab · 06/03/2009 13:07

MillyR . I agree

VerynicenonacidicTits · 06/03/2009 13:14

Im not defending these mags or the shops who have them in full view of dc, i agree that they shouldnt be in the sight line of dc, i am just amazed that a 2 yr would even comment as i know my 2 yr is oblivious to them, and most of the time cant even see that high

was just curious to what her toddler actually says about them, incase i need to point her to the G&T threads