Not having a problem with this?

[Altagloria]

My DH bought our flat with his then fiancee in 2005. A few weeks later they broke up and she moved out, with DH taking over the mortgage.

When we met in 2006 and I moved in we remortgaged so DH and I are on the deeds. I also supervised organised and took part in decorating the place. We've lived here together for three years now. We are TTC for DC1.

But I'm just watching a property show now and the woman is saying they're looking for a new house because her DH bought their current place with his XP and she can't have children in that house!

AIBU or weird to be living here and planning children here when DH bought it with his XP?

AIBU watching daytime property shows?

no, yanbu, that woman must be a freak

why aren't you listening to woman's hour instead?

YANBU to live there... Goodness, if we worried about who had lived in the houses we bought?...

YABU to watch daytime property shows. Utter filth, which has helped to get us all in the mess we're in today!

Definitely unreasonable watching daytime property shows.

Not at all unreasonable not to feel odd. You feel how you feel. If it was dh and ex's dream flat, but not really your cup of tea then you would probably feel differently. It's your home and that's the important thing.

Step away from the TV

If neither you nor dh have a problem with it then yanbu. It sounds like you have made it your home together. We live in the house that I lived in with my ex-h. Was a bit weird at first but made sense financially and now is never even thought of. And we have dcs here. Home is where those who you love are imo.

No, decor can make a huge change to a place.

If it's an old house, people would have died. A woman died in childbirth in the house I lived in, built 1898.

It was sad, but it didn't play on my mind any more than if it had been next door.

I walk under ladders though, put shoes on tables and let my cihldren play wiht umbrellas inside!

Good to hear mners and some good points.

Though it was unsettling to be clearing out a cupboard recently and find some 4 year old celeb mags that are really not mine.

Maybe that says too much about my infrequent cupboard-clearing.

The TV is still on (contemplating Radio 4 though Mitchy!) and she is looking a bit freakish yes.

My best friend lived with her mum when she met her now DH. When he proposed he assumed she'd move in with him...but she wouldn't because he'd had ex-girlfriends stay (only one or two and never to live). He had to sell up and buy a house with my friend before she'd set a wedding date!! Bizarre

I personally wouldn't like to live in a house my DH chose with another woman - but then I'm odd

My sis happily lives with her DH in a house he bought with his XP. It used to bother her but the house is very much hers now it's all been redecorated etc.

If it doesn't bother you then YANBU

Your friend's demands are bizarre mylife! On that basis I should probably have told my DH I would throw out the lovely bed sheets I brought to the relationship because they had in fact been sullied by two other males previously... oh god maybe I should have namechanged for this to prevent DH detection

My problem at the beginning was that we were still getting letters from the mortage provider address to DH and XP. Not nice. But am proud to say I worked through my ishooos to become the stable, not unreasonable daytime TV watcher I am today!