To distance myself from friend who makes snidey remarks about my DC?

[princesstoxic]

I have namechanged. I have known this friend for a couple of years and been friends for about a year. We have children of similar ages. Every now and again, out of the blue she will make a snidey comment about my DC ie her DS has been hanging about with my DS too much and that is why her DS is being cheeky. They don't even see much of each other and don't play together at school!
Now before you think I am being precious, I fully accept that my DC are not angels and will often talk about how they are driving me mad. AIBU and what would you do? BTW I have never been in this situation before and generally thought that people did not say negative things about other people's DC to their faces at least!

Is snidey a word?

good for you ADM. Wish I had your guts.

how about saying to her.............

i know, isnt he cheeky!!!

perhaps she meant they know each other so well they are cheeky to each other.. giving her the benefit of the doubt.

i would say as the above, or words to that effect,

Slarty - She has said other things too! I have let it go but not anymore.

Princess, honestly, rise above it. In a few years time you will have forgiven, but not forgotten her remarks, your ds will either have forgotten her ds or will be friends, but on his own terms without adult intervention. In the mean time please don't upset yourself with these petty, spiteful people.

Thank you captainpeacock, you are right.Just so hard.....