To be considering dating already

[newlysinglemummy]

Exp and I have been in an on and off relationship for so many years. We broke up in August last year. We didn't get back together after that but did sleep together a few times and discussed getting back together.

I have now not spoke to him scince december due to him being violent and I think that I am ready to move on and start having fun.

I have not got anyone that can look after dd all the time but could manage one night a week I would say.

Do you think it is just too quick to move on? If I am honest our relationship has been over for years....

go for it

what is stopping you ??

well i hav never really date before, i have had 2 boyfriends which were long term relationships ad one f buddy.

i just wonder if I could keep it at the dating stage and not let it go any further as dont really want a relationship as have had a crappy one for long enough...

sorry meant to say I have never dated before

You sound ready for that I think- get out there and enjoy yourself!

thanks maybe I should.

Also I was out on the weekend and this guy asked me where I was going later and asked for my number, but I said I would take his instead. I didn't call him later but now I'm wondering if I should text him or something?

I didn't really chat to him for long, but he seems nice, not my normal type who think they are hot or cool or something. But not sure if I should text as I only had his number so I could tell him where I was going.

also i'm sure xp was sitting outside my house a few days ago so worried about him following me and finding out what I'm doing as he is crazy...

All the more reason to move on then!

Do it out of his way at first, don't encourage him to lose his temper, put some time and distance between yourselves, dont contact him or sleep with him again if your serious about moving on and ending the on off relationship that you have had with him. I'm sure that if you play it like this and dont antagonise the crazed one you may find he has moved on too, you know what its like...out of sight, out of mind.

I will def not sleep with him and have not had contact with him for 3months and hope to never see him again, but we do have dd together so eventually I will have to see him again I suppose when he gets contact with her...

Sorry - didn't realise that he is DD's father, different then, you will always unfortunately have a tie to eachother. You can still distance him from you though. Good luck.

thanks, I will probably need it...

But yes I am doing my best to keep the distance between us...

Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

I'm not recommending that you jump into bed with the first bloke you meet, unless of course that's what you want - but definitely go out - have some fun - meet some men - live life!!!!

yes i feel it always helps me get over someone, esp if you keep it casual and do not get too involved...