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Original poster

Did mummy check your hair then?

42 replies

OrmIrian · 04/03/2009 10:17

Lice in DS#2's Yr 1 class last week. One child had them and lots of head scratching going on. Lice letter sent out which DH was given when he fetched the children (as he does 3 days out of 5). When DS#1 went to school on Monday the TA asked him whether 'mummy had checked his hair for lice'.

Why? Why not daddy whom the teacher sees every afternoon and whom she has much more chance to speak to than the mornings when it's a huge rush? Why does mummy have to do it? I am feeling unreasonably aggreived about this. So no matter how much DH does in the way of caring for the DC, it's still 'mummy' that has to be responsible.

BTW, we did. Checked, Hedrined and nit-combed. Before the nitaphobes start screaming at me

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steviesgirl · 04/03/2009 12:05

Aren't you overreacting just a tad? She probably said "mummy" off the top of her head.

It seems people have to constantly be treading on eggshells with some in case they offend them in some way!! I wouldn't give it a second thought personally. No ill intent I'm sure.

mumeeee · 04/03/2009 13:21

YABU. It was just a turn of phrase.

TiggyR · 04/03/2009 14:16

I don't think she would have even clocked that Daddy picks up children - just assumed that Mummy does the the lice checking which in 99% of cases she does! I wouldn't take it personally...

The thing is, I always get the hump when I go into a petrol station for three or four bottles of de-ionised water and the man at the desk always says 'got losts of ironing, have you, love?' How dare he. He would never say that to a man. He would assume the man wanted it for his car radiator. But actually, I need it for my ironing.

PuppyMonkey · 04/03/2009 14:23

Mummys aren't best at checking for nits imho. My close up eye sight is attrocious. DP is mich better at spotting the little bastards.

Anyone else got an itchy head reading this thread?

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OrmIrian · 04/03/2009 14:25

Sorry about that puppy!

But I've been itching like mad ever since we found DS#2 had them.

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mayorquimby · 04/03/2009 14:31

haha i also love it when people get pissed off even though the person gets it bang on i.e. the ironing post by tiggyr
i mean you want to be pissed off,and you want to be offended but he got it bang on si can you really be offended?
it's like dave chappelles stand up when he goes into a restaurant and the waiter says to him before he orders "let me guess you want the chicken" because he's black and in chappelles own words he thought "damn that's some racist shit,but you know what, i did want the chicken.so i can't get mad unless i order something else."

TiggyR · 04/03/2009 14:34

Ah! You see, we all hate to be stereotyped but it just so easy and so accurate!

dingdong05 · 04/03/2009 14:46

I know what you mean and it is irritating. It's in the same category of assuming dads are babysitting when they are really just looking after their own kids!
YAB a tad U though. QWith all the more unconventional family make ups represented in schools I tend to be especially impressed if they remember our particular structure. Lets not insist on the day when they will ask "did your caregiver nit comb you" lol

HSMM · 04/03/2009 14:55

And .... DH or I used to check DDs hair for lice without telling her what we were doing, so she would have told her teacher - "No" !!

JemL · 04/03/2009 15:01

Just as an aside...I cannot stand it when people ask if DH is babysitting, it drives me absolutely mad, for all the obvious reasons! It is surprising how often people say it though, and how often I have heard other mums saying oh I can't come, DH can't babysit...!!!

jack99 · 04/03/2009 15:02

DSs teacher tells the class "mummy is at home doing housework" when they talk about what parents do while they are at school.

So he comes home and says "you have been at home all day, you have it easy".

I have been at work all day.

Naturally it is taken for granted that Daddy is terribly busy all day in the office.

He has been playing golf.

Tamarto · 04/03/2009 15:35

What would she have done if he had said no?

Original poster
OrmIrian · 04/03/2009 16:10

Don't know tamarto

Maybe given him a bell and made his yell 'Unclean! Unclean'.

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jumpjockey · 04/03/2009 16:44

Maybe it was because you were the parent there at the time...?

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OrmIrian · 04/03/2009 16:50

I wasn't there.

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fishie · 04/03/2009 16:50

that is really irritating orm.

dh went in to pre-school to do the review and the keyworker kept getting my name wrong. he corrected her three times and she still got it wrong when she saw me later that day.

i only appear once a fortnight so apparently am not at all worth memorising.

jumpjockey · 04/03/2009 16:51

Argh sorry read 1 as I. Need new specs...

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