AIBU to be sobbing my heart out for this?

[peachyfox]

OK, before I start perhaps I should say I'm 15 weeks pregnant with our first baby...

I just got back from a 24 hour work trip overseas, really knackered, buzzed DP to come down to help me up with my bag as I'm very asthmatic and trying to minimize medication. He came straight down, got my bag, gave me a glancing kiss, shot back upstairs, dumped my bag and went straight back to work on his computer. I'm already upset because he didn't send me a text while I was away which would have been nice (he usually does).

I asked him if he was 'really in the middle of something' with his work and he said, 'sort of'. No further comment. Didn't turn round. Banging of cupboards and sniffing has (apparently) gone unnoticed.

Shouldn't DP at least give ask me how I'm feeling? A hug?

Am I just a hormonal whinging? He's been very sweet recently.

And you can be as brutal as you like - I'm already bloody miserable so it won't make much difference.

Boo hoo.

go and wrap your arms around him and give him a squeeze, tell him you love him and offer him a cuppa - invite him to snuggle on sofa with you and talk about your day.

If he refuses / ignores / doesnt turn round and snuggle you back then tell him he's a twunt, make grunting noises (i did this very naturally when PG) and insist he sleeps on sofa.

oh bless you,not what you needed. Not worth a row, as it would make you feel even worse.

I'd feel the same as.YANBU.

Feel free to blow off steam here. I'd ask how his days been, to see if he returns the question, unfortunately some men are just not that in touch with these things.

Have a HUG from me [MrsP wraps arms around peachyfox ]

If he is generally nice and attentive and loving then yes, YABU - chalk it up to hormones.

Banging on cupboards and sniffing is childish (I do it whenever dh and I fall out so I know of what I speak ) so take onlywantsone's advice and give him a hug and a cuppa and tell him you are feeling neglected/in need of a hug. You have another 25 weeks of pregnancy hormones to go so you both need to accept that you will need ever increasing amounts of tlc to get through it.

You're allowed to be upset and demand more of his attention, you're pregnant

(Oh and don't reduce your asthma medication because you're pregnant unless your asthma has improved significantly!)

YANBU. Ask him to make you a cup of tea and come and sit down to have a chat. If he hesitates, I would point out that you have been away and it would be good to catch up. If this fails, throw his laptop out of the window!

Ditto Sidge's comment above - make sure you keep using both your reliever and your preventer inhaler. Both are fine during pregnancy.

I agree with EightiesChick... you deservedly want some sugar, so go right ahead and ask for it. 'Hey, come talk to me for a bit! I missed you!' Sure, it would have been better if he had just known, of course, but the situation might be salvageable before becoming a 'situation', right?

Thanks everyone, for your kind comments, DP just came down and spent a good while hugging and bump patting and doing his stupid grizzly bear impression (it's crap).

Then he made me make his dinner (.

Re the asthma meds, I am still taking them, just trying to minimize situations in which I would have to use the reliever...

The reliever is perfectly OK to take peachyfox. It's very important that you keep taking your dose as prescribed.

My asthma really worsened when I was preggo - you most probably need to discuss this with your GP and Obs.

Congrats on the pregnancy and glad your Dp has finished what he was doing and all is well!!

I bet he's Mumsnetting!

Its probably mostly pregnancy stuff, but you might need to TELL him that you are a bit sobby.

Men can miss these things IMO and it is generally just easier to tell them they have pissed you off, so they can immediately hop to and make you happy again!