to wonder if it would be too self-regarding to have an anniversary party?

[Wispabarsareback]

DH is keen to have a party in a hotel for family and close friends to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary later this year. We've had an eventful few years in some ways, and DH really wants to mark our anniversary in this way - plus he's really sociable and he likes organising parties!

DH is keener on the idea than I am, although I've come round to it a bit - but I'm now wondering if it would be a bit yukkily self-regarding to invite people to a party to celebrate our own anniversary. Is it better for this sort of celebration to be kept private? Might it come across as a bit smug - 'look at us, we've been married for ten years'. Or am I being ridiculous and over-analysing the whole thing?

What a lovely idea!

Its always nice to share a happy occasion with the people who matter to you.

If you are worried about people feeling obliged to bring presents, just say on the invites "no presents please, just bring yourselves!"

Hope you have a blast!

And have the romantic weekend away as well!

No, presents never entered my head either, comparethemeerkat

Thanks all - your replies would make my DH very happy - think we'll probably go for it!

Hmm, We've had a party for our anniversary every year for 17 years! It is the begining of August thought, so it's kinda just a good excuse for a BBQ, but we celebrate nevertheless! (I also have a very bad habit of getting drunk and putting my wedding dress on!)

@ maureen still fitting into wedding dress 17 years later

god yeah have a party!

marriages are supposed to be public property in that respect

I think it only seems odd because it's not one of the traditional 'big' ones, e.g. 25th. But given the high divorce rate these days, surely a 10th anniversary is the new 25th? (not suggesting that's where you're headed, Wispa...) Plus you're much more likely to regret not having a party than having one - it will be a lovely thing to look back on. How nice too for your DCs to be involved in celebrating their parents' marriage.