Would you be offended or am I over-reacting?

[ThatShittySmell]

I just put my msn on and noticed my mum was logged on so I sent a message saying "Hi".

There was no answer for ages and then she sent a message back saying "George said you're a pain, interupting his narrow boat searching"

I know for a fact he says these things and means them but disguises it as a 'playful snipe'.

She then put "I'm just checking my messages" so I said "here's a pic of (DS) with the kitten (he got for his birthday" and I sent her a pic.

She received it and said "thanks for that, it was great"

I then sent her one saying "And this is one of DS1 on his birthday (special friend came over to see him so it was a big deal).

I then got a message saying "transfer failed, other side cancelled" she then sent a message saying "sorry, can't remember how to do it". After she'd just received one?

So I sent again, same thing happened. Cancelled. So I sent it one last time and said "just click accept" ... picture transfer cancelled. So I just though "fair enough, sod it" and left them to it. I then got a message from my mum saying "I'll talk to you later, George is trying to look up on narrowboats".

AIBU to think this was really bloody rude? Firstly snubbing me when I said hello and then cancelling the photos of my DS's and pretending it was by accident 4 times

I'm really annoyed.

not sure about the snidey remark, you would know better than me.
About the picture transfer, is she technologically challenged? My mum can't remember how to do the simplest thing (put TV on) despite being shown over and over again, there's a bit of her brain that doesn't get it Is it possible George did the first one?

No I think its more like he cancelled the others to be honest.

Hmmm... maybe he just wanted to search for narrowboats in peace?

hmmmm
Personally I would give her the cold shoulder next time she wants to talk, but then I'm childish like that

He sounds a bit unpleasant. Your mum sounds like she was put in an awkward position.

That doesn't sound like a massive deal! She was tinkering about on the computer, having some difficulties. SHe knows that she exchange photos with you anytime, over e-mail even.

true Lawks, but then the op's mother did start another conversation and seemed interested at first.

well they did say originally that he was searching for narrowboats so I wouldn't have bothered after that
why don't you email them the photos?

If you knew he was looking for stuff on the computer, why did you chose to send pictures?

Because my mum then said she was checking her messages so I assumed he'd gone.

Tell them to mark their status as unavailable or offline if they don't want to be interrupted.

Would save a lot of aggro!

oh FGS do you talk to every person who says Hi on MSN I would be bogged down all the time no one takes offense .....and yes if she said he (I assume her OH) was looking for something then I think you were rude to keep sending messages ..
I suspect there is more history here !

Pl;ease don't sweat its no biggie. Its msn really.
Your mums OH sounds like an arse. Really no need to upset yourself over an unsatisfactory MSN exchange.

Sounds like they were busy and didn't want to be chatting and uploading pictures. I wouldn't take it to heart. My Mum just tells me to bog off if she's busy - no big deal, I hate it myself when people pounce as soon as you go online, I got rid of MSN because it was so annoying.

tbh, I think she was clearly telling you it was not a good time for a natter. You could have left it till later.

I would not be upset.

I hate it when messenger pops up (but dont know how to cancel it) I find it incredibly intrusive and sometimes cancel on people by accident!

yabu

The problem is that with all of todays technology we expect to be able to contact and converse with people whenever we want and not at a time that is mutually convenient.

My family think I am insane and rude because I often don't answer my home telphone. My point is that I would answer it if I wanted to speak with someone at that moment.

I rarely answer my phone on the same grounds. If urgent someone will leave a message and its rarely convenient for me to take the call, maybe I would rather sit and watch TV and once you have taken the call you cant say that!

I think what hecatetwopencesomething said

but it might help in the future if they learn how to put up an away message or 'appear offline'

You are over reacting. |She might have forgotten how to upload pictures my Mum is alawys naving troble doing this kind of stuff. Or they might have just wanteds to get on with what they were doing and did not have time to upload the pictures.

Massively over reacting. On a scale of 1-10 does it matter?!

If I'm trying to do something on the computer then I prefer to get on with it. It sounds like your dad/stepdad was getting hacked off with your mum trying to play with the computer whilst he was doing something. It's not really a 2 person occupation. Your dad should just have said "I'm busy at the moment" same as you can with a phone call. It sounds as though you were upset because what was a convenient time for you to chat on msn wasn't for your parents/ mum and stepdad.

I often go invisible on YIM, AIM and MSN, because I hate being obligated to talk when not in the mood. I understand you wanted to show the pics, but really, your Mum might not have wanted to see them right then. That's sort of her prerogative, I think.

My Mum is a LOT ruder if I fail to pick up on such an unsubtle "not now" hint, tbh, though PFB-GC syndrome means she is as fascinated by ds as me... for now!

OP - am in bed supping a cup of tea and reading your post when i noticed your name. I had mouthful of tea which is now on keyboard as i thought it was so funny

oh and btw - YANBU - def would be offended.