To want a mothers' day card from 7 week old DD...

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...and should I start hinting to DP now?

Or am I being utterly ridiculously precious?

I think you're all mad. In the nicest possible way perhaps, but still barking.

Basically you're saying your husbands should get you a mother's day card so that you can imagine that your DCs are saying these sentimental things. They're not. It's just commercialism.

Hurray for MaryMotherOfCheeses!

I'm not sure whether this year will be my first or second Mothering Sunday as a mother, but I've spent 33 years not celebrating it because my mother thinks it's a load of old shite, and I'm not about to start now.

I think it is actually kind of weird to want your DH to buy you a card that you both pretend is from a tiny baby. She can't buy cards. Aren't her smiles enough for you?

yanbu but be carefiul, ds was tiny and dh got a card thanking me for all the years I ahd been ds's mum....ffs he was about 6 weeks old

Hey BOM

Hint away. Geting a birthday card from my little one (9 days old) was the highlight of my day (considering I was exhausted & ill with mastitis). Mothers day card would be lovely. Go for it. Sod commercialism. Get hinting....

Agree. DD2 said to DH today "Shall we get Mummy that?" pointing at SATC DVD. Nicest thing ever. I won't actually get it and don't really want it, but she thought of it all by herself and wanted to get it with her pocket money.

X-posted. Am agreeing with MMOC. Wait till they do it themselves.

YANBU. I go one further and need it to say "mummy" (same goes for birthdays and christmas). I have had both "mother" (made me feel ancient and in some bronte novel) and "mum" (which just made it seem less special as Im mummy not mum!).

See - ridiculous but so so special. DH has learnt and even gets them to sign it - yes including DD when she was only a few weeks old at christmas. In reality I think he just does some squiggles on the page himself but I can pretend its from them lol!!

I remember my first mother's day. I was gobsmacked that DH hadn't done anything. When I tearfully reproached him he looked at me in total consternation and uttered the immortal words: 'But you're not MY mother!'
There followed several years of him just not getting it, but he is reasonably well trained now.

Not worth hinting about IMO, if you have to hint then you might as well go out and buy the card yourself. I'd rather my DH thought of it himself and went out there and bought the card but if it was with my discreet hinting then it just wouldn't be the same. I bought my DH a 'father to be' card on fathers day when I was pregnant with my first but only because it made me feel good and made him more excited about the imminent arrival.

MMOC, you're heartless, that's what you are: heartless!

"Basically you're saying your husbands should get you a mother's day card so that you can imagine that your DCs are saying these sentimental things."

YES!!!

The point is that for the next 3? years (till the DCs start making cards at nursery) our DHs get the opportunity to make a tender gesture of appreciation for our efforts as mothers, supposedly on behalf of the DCs but actually to thank us for the gargantuan task of producing and nurturing their child.

Then in a few years the DCs can take over.

No. DS was one week old on Mother's Day 2007. If DH hadn't bought me a card from him I would have been devastated.

DH appears to have bought me the same card that year that Tommy's DH bought her!

"It's actually all about the DP taking DD out in the pram, going to the card shop and saying, to his (slumbering) daughter; "Now. Which card do you think Mummy would like best? This one? Or this one? Oh yes, this one."

THAT'S what makes it special."

I agree with BalloonSlayer.

I wouldn't want one I had to hint for - sorry.

Well, it would be lovely if DH thought of getting a card himself - but he won't. (I don't think he actually has got used to the idea that I am a mother despite having witnessed DD's arrival, and so there is a small subtext going on to underline this detail.) In fact the hinting went from gentle, to less subtle, to great whacking hints last night, all greeted with blank looks. I ended up saying it would be nice to get a card - greeted with a panicked look from DH, who by his own admission says he would never have thought about it being my first mothers' day.

Anyway, I've given up my waist, perky boobs, sleep and booze for DD and to give DH a child, is it too much to ask for one small card in exchange...?

My DS was 3 weeks old on our first Mother's Day last year, i'd have been distraught if I didn't get a card !

Bah humbug the lot of you! When they are too small to do it themselves it's about dp/dh making an effort to make you feel extra special. The focus is on YOU alone for ONE DAY. Nothing to do with commercialism, (although obviously it is as well but my point is for the other reason for the day), it's about being made to feel cherished.

A bit precious, imo.

I don't get the fuss made about mothers day at all. I was only saying earlier to dh, please don't get me a card from the dcs (not that he would anyway).

Bit different if an older child does something spontaneously to show appreciation. That is special.

YANBU - agreen with minniemummy,
for my first mothersday, unbeknown to me, dp had invited his friend to stay for the weekend, i was fuming, and he never got me a mothersday card or present, and as they were staying at his mums (they didnt stay at ours as dp and his friend were smoking and i knew they would sit and smoke in the spare room while playing on the playstation,)so when he got home late sun eve, he came in and gave me the bunch of flowers i had brought for his mum!!!! i threw them back at him and made them give them back to his mum.
i have never let him forget it and i get much nicer mothers day things now, esspess as ds1 is 10 and chooses his things now.

I got my first mother's day card from dd when she went to nursery and they made them there. It wouldn't have occurred to dh to do one for her, not in a month of Sundays.