to think that DH should be able to discuss puberty with Ds1??

[SparklyGothKat]

I said to DH, the other day, that he should discuss puberty with Ds1 who is 11, he said he had On the way to Ds1's eye appointment today I mentioned that he should start showering every day and he asked why, so I said about puberty and found oout that DH hadn't talked about it with him.. We then had a long talk about the changes he would go through and he was fine and grown up about it all, but I have to talk to the girls when its time, don't know why DH can't do the boys.. bloodly men...

DP will talk to his daughter when the time comes. IMO a child needs to be able seek guidance from either parent.

i don't mind doing it but I asked dh to do it first to break the ice IYKWIM. as I am not a boy I am not 100% sure on everything lol

I know what you mean, sometimes the boys need a "man to man" chat with their dads. Could you buy a book, there's loads around aimed at boys, and let your dh give it to him.

My sons 6 and 8 shower every day. Not sure why that is an issue here.

I do not think the whole mechanics of sex and biology of reproduction is especially useful but I do think fathers need to talk to their sons about how real, good, loving, respectful and lawful adult sexual relationships work.

Not exactly sure how good I would be in giving advice on homosexual relationships (lack of experience) but it seems to me that the same principles apply whether straight or gay.

not discussing sex, he knows all that, but puberty, and the changes his body will go through. He doesn't shower every day as he is unable to get in and out the shower unaided and needs one of us to help (he has cerebral palsy) and with 4 children there isn't time, but am going to contact SS to get some aids now

Saying he had when he hadn't is naughty, fair enough he was embarresed or whatever but if he couldn't face it he should have asked you to help out rather than, potentially, leave his ds without any help or guidance at a pretty difficult time of life

Poor guy - bet he is glad he is married to you not someone as horribly grumpy as me

I always assumed my DP would be comfortable talking to our sons about puberty and all the attendant issues - he said he would but it's always ended up being left to me.

I was disappointed as I'd kind of hoped that we'd both talk freely to them about anything. Hell, no! And what really pissed me off is that it was always going to be 'tomorrow' or 'next week'. Ha, bloody ha. Grrr.

Frankly, he wimped out. Especially from the wet dreams discussion. And I was a bit grumpy about it, tbh .

Mind you, the boys (both teens now) are happy to talk about all this kind of stuff very openly, so hopefully they'll feel OK to discuss it with their own kids, if they have any.

King - maybe he 'had', but hadn't said it was called puberty so in the OP's DS's mind Dad hadn't told him IYSWIM - doesn't mean Dad was telling Porkies (not ruling that either out though ).

I think books are great (alongside the discussion) so they can look at them in their own time and it's just another way to make it 'normal' not some 'big deal'.