For not wanting to prat about shifting dolls houses around 'Again'?

[StayOutOfTheLight]

I do feel a bit guilty writing this but ...

My grandmother collects doll's houses. They're big and extremely heavy. She can never decide where she wants them and I have been involved in "moving them around" 3 or 4 times in the past. It's usually me and my mum moving them around her flat but as I say, they weight an absolute ton.

We've moved them around so many times.

Unfortunately my grandmothers husband (not my grandfather) died at the weekend. He wasn't very nice to my grandmother so its not like she's grieving terribly (sounds awful but if you knew the circumstances, you'd understand) and I said I would go down tomorow to give her a bit of company and help whereever I can.

Needless to say she's decided she'd like to move the dolls houses around again I'm not being awful and I know its a bad time for her but I really cannot be arsed with the dolls houses thing again. Of course I will do it, if she asks and I won't say anything but AIBU for secretely thinking this should be the last thing of their minds at this time? When I said I'd go and help, pratting around with the fooking houses again wasn't exactly what I had in mind.

Oh Yabu.

but i think you know you are.

YABU

I'm shocked
YABU

I think you just have to prat about and keep her distracted - it might be keeping her mind off things. People always say "Is there anything I can do?", so I think they should suck it up, to a degree at least. So YABU.

This might be coloured by me loving dolls houses though...if they get too much for her, give her my number

YABU a bit, but perhaps she doesn't realise exactly how heavy they are for you and your mum to shift. How come this issue hasn't been addressed before? If you are likely to hurt your backs doing it, I mean. Give her this last shift, and emphasise that it will be the last!

She may not be acutely distressed by the loss of her husband, but may be feeling a bit guilty for feeling relieved that he is now gone.

GirlyWhirly, I think that is true, I think she is feeling guilty that she's more relieved than sad.

Maybe I'm biased because I hate the bloody things and think they're ugly and pointless I never let on to her that the constant faffing with them irritates me of course. I know IABU I just don't 'get' these kids of hobbies.

Ooh you need some of those things they sell for putting big plants on, with the wheels! Then you can just roll them around...

YANBU for thinking this. However, to say it would BU....

Does she feel she wants to rearrange the house and have things where she wants them/different to how it was when he was there - to move on/celebrate/start again...?

But no, you are not being unreasonable to not WANT to move them again .