To introduce a dog into the family while CMing.

[Shoshe]

As some of you know, i was giving up CMing this year and going back into the outside work force.

plans have now changed, and I am carrying on for another two years.

DH has always wanted a dog, but while he was away most of the time I had said no.

Now he will be home all the time, we had thought of getting a dog. A staffie.

But with strict restrictions.

The dog was to be kept in a outside kennel within a fenced off area so that the children could not get within touching distance, while the children were here.

A Lot of the time the dog would be going to work with DH, although as he will be working shifts, there would be times that the dog would be in the kennel.

I have now put out a news letter to all my existing parents, all the feedback is negative.

Even if we changed the bred of dog.

The Dog would NEVER be with the children.

Would you send your child to a CM who has a dog, even tho the dog is securely locked away?

aw brilliant!!

No, never trust even a trained dog totally, but my mum has a GR and lab (the lab was given to her from one of her customers - she was dying of cancer - mum's a dog trainer)

Anyway, the GR lays on the floor, DS lays on her, then the lab lays on DS!!! So funny!

Awww lewis!

My current goldie is the biggest softie ever, cant bark (voice box problems) and has never growled ever! not even at the chikens when they nick his food!
My old goldie tho was entirely different, very food possessive and patient with the children only to a point.

my CM has a dog,
a really soppy black lab
and i love that she does seeing as we don't have room or time to have a dog.
in fact it was one of the reasons i chose her as our CM

it has taught my DS to be respectful of animals and how to stroke it etc.

the dog is always allowed in the house with the children in fact its bed is in the kitchen/dining room where the children spend alot of their time.

We have 3 dogs but I wouldnt use a cm with a dog, sorry.

I really am not keen on dogs at all, very scared of them in fact.
DS2's (and DS1's on occasions) FAB CM has a small black terrier (like a hairy maclary/westie type) who is kept outside (yard and kennel)at all times when the children are around they do see her for a time. She is a well loved family pet, I met her before I signed up etc and wasn't scared, I trust the CM and the dog tbh. As we have no pets since our cat died and DH won't get another one I am glad that DS2 has exposure to a pet (he loves animals).

That said, I would not let my DC be minded by a CM with a Staffie, and I am sure that some are lovely but I am petrified of them and I suppose guilty of believing the stereotypes, sorry.

I'd def pull my kids out if the CM said she was getting a dog.
TBH the fact that you've gone on about the seperate kennel and fenced off garden bit and zero contact etc would scare me even more as it'd make me think the dog must be really dangerous (potentially) to need all those precautions!

Just a update.

After spending HOURS on the phone to DH, talking about all the possibilities I Have decided to retire, after 30 years of dancing to others tunes within my own home,we have decided it it time we got our home back.

Opportunely a job has become available managing the local Children centre Nursery, and I have applied for it.

If I get it, two of my children will follow me, so I won lose touch.

If i don't get it, there will always be other jobs coming up where I can use my experience and knowledge of Childcare.

I have outstanding Ofsted Report done recently as well as a degree in Early Years Education,so it shouldn't be that hard to find one.

Tis scary tho going on out into the work force again.

I wouldn't use a CM with a dog.

wouldn't use a c/m who had a dog...sorry.

i wouldn't be comfortable either

good luck with the new job shoshe

looney dog thread

wrong thread

Actually this morning after Parents thinking of it overnight, only one family would have left in the end, but it was maybe the push I needed to move on to new fields.

good luck for the job

Good luck, hope you get the job

Was just about to post saying I wouldn't use a CM with a dog, then saw the latest update!

Hope the job interview goes well, and then you can get the dog and have the best of both worlds.

I wish I'd seen this earlier - poor you what a thing to experience.

I fwiw would not have had a problem with the staff- but then I am a ex staff owner and definate staff lover.

Labs are not reliable around children as they bite without warning neither are collies and neither are jack russels. But if you read the Kennel club description of a staffie - it says TOTALLY RELIABLE and great ESPECIALLY WITH CHILDREN

Get your staff and enjoy him/her. My only advice would be make sure its a KC registered one - don't be tempted by a cheaper non kc registered one - they are usually cross bred somewhere along the line and therefore not totally reliable

These staffs in the media who have bitten I guaruntee will not have KC papers and they won't be proper staffs - probably a mixed breed with little or not sensible genetics

Sorry your parents were so unreasonable

YANBU by the way

Good luck with the new job.

If you were my cm I would not have left my daugher with you if you had the dog. Not under any circumstances. No way. Never.

So yes YAB very U.

What about kids not used to dogs? You never know how well a trained dog would react to being teased/hit etc...

I have a 2yo and 4yo and a small terrier, and I'm a dog lover. As much as I love our dog (he is 7 and we've raised him as a pup) I know I can never trust him 100% with the children. No dog owner can. I do not like dogs off the lead in the street, either, when I'm approaching with my children.

I would be put off a CM with a dog for sure. If the CM had a staffie, no bloody way in hell. At the end of the day Staffies are a fighting breed (they have been bred to be this way) who need intense training/commitment to produce a family pet...they have very strong instictive behaviour. I do realise that they can make good family pets when trained properly.

(My friend just witnessed her kitten savaged by neighbour's staffie last week...in her own garden!)

TBH, I don't think any dog should be kennelled either, unless they are a specialist working dog on a farm or such like.

Dogs need a lot of exercise, how would that fit into your working day?

Sorry...just seen update!

Good luck for your new job...you made the right decision!

sazzerbear Have you read anything except the OP? THE CHILDREN WOULD NEVER COME INTO CONTACT WITH THE DOG.
Shoshe if you don't get the job you have applied for (which I doubt anyway) I have 2 dcs who will fill the gap while you are waiting for the right job I have no problem with the dog. I have decided I will definately go back to work regardless in September and have even been looking at scrub again!

Allright keep your hair on, i'm defending the dog here!

Yes sazzer but you have given a point that would't ever arise. Dog and child will not mix, more safe than a trip to a park where chilren potentially meet a strange dog off a lead who bounds up to them.
Much safer than the next door neighbours dog charging up and down a fence thats just wire, where little fingers can poke through when they are in the garden.
I think people are being nuerotic tbh and hysterical when its the safest way possible.