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to think school should name DS as winner?

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minxthemanx · 25/02/2009 21:18

DS1 age 7 has won a competition, which means he plus 40 odd children from his school have a day in London, tour round Houses of Parliament, meet a Lord etc - all expenses paid. Letter came home tonight with details of the visit - it said "someone" had won this competition, no name! Neither has he been mentioned on weekly newsletter well done section - I would think it's as much an achievement as the 5metre swimming badges etc! Don't feel I can say anything as will look like right pushy parent, but am disappointed for him. Wouldn't the parents want to know who had won? There wouldn't be a lovely trip if he hadn't! The Head did mention it in KS1 assembly, but it seems a bit mean to refer to him as "someone" in the letter. AIBU? Do you think there's a reason?

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LilyBolero · 27/02/2009 09:34

Just a thought - what about a little article in the local newspaper? It's the sort of thing they love to write about - "Pupils going to Parliament, thanks to miniMinxtheManx".

LilyBolero · 27/02/2009 09:35

(Don't mean an article criticising the school btw, just a 'He has won the competition, the schoool will be heading off to Parliament' etc

More exciting than being in the school newsletter!

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 27/02/2009 09:43

Could the school be not printing his name so as not to cause jelousy with the other students?

I know you say that they print things about other kids acheivements in ballet, football etc, but surely only a limited number of children do these activities and the others would know who the winner was anyway.

It sounds like the whole school/class took part in this comp.

It's still not fair to your ds though.

MrsMcCluskey · 27/02/2009 09:48

That is so unfair on your DS!
Def contact your local rag, it would make a lovley story and a great kkepsake for DS!

Sassybeast · 27/02/2009 09:49

I think it's crap that they haven't named him - he deserves recognition and I suspect it's more to do with not upsetting any other little darlings or pushy parents! Well done to him

gagamama · 27/02/2009 10:04

If you're a member of staff then maybe that's why they haven't mentioned his name, because they don't want it to look like a set-up or something? (Not that it actually would if it wasn't even judged by the school or your DS wasn't the only one benefiting, but perhaps that was the logic?)

I also agree with Celia2, the secretary or whoever wrote the letter probably just didn't know the name of the child who won. The football/swimming/ballet etc acheivements would probably be passed to the secretary on a list, if your DS's name wasn't given then how would she know?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 28/02/2009 20:50

how sad that the school didnt name your son

he put a lot of hard work into his answer nd won what sounds an amazing trip

i would def say something to the head, yes he may have had his name mentioned in assembly but bet many kids didnt tell their parents about it

i would also ring your local paper, that is just the kind of article they like - sure he would get his picture in the paper

if the school can say that tom got a 5m swim badge then they can say about this as well

WallOfSilence · 28/02/2009 21:14

I am a reporter for our local paper & this is exactly the kind of story we would be interested in!!

How many schools took part in the competition?

I guess it was run by your local council & the best school/class won?

I covered a story a few months ago on this class on KS2 pupils who had entered a local council comp about safer bonfires & we named the young people who came 1st 2nd & 3rd in the competition as well as got a class shot!

On another level I also covered a story about a group of local children who won a science prize out of all the schools in the UK! It was a great achievement not only for the class, but for the school & the Borough as a whole as the school the young people attend is a small rural school in NI & they were competing with all the big boys!

Why don't you look for the email address of your local paper & drop them a line!! It's not only good publicity for the school but your boy's achievements will be recognised!!

(the only reason I can think of the school not naming him is unless someone from the class was bound to have won & they don't like naming individually? ie: only their class took part & no other classes/schools?)

Gorionine · 28/02/2009 21:17

I am a bit pushed by time so have just simmed thread but WELL DONE TO YOUR DS!!!!!!

kickassangel · 28/02/2009 21:28

if i was a parent, i'd like to know if i didn't. if my dd got a freebie trip & it sounds like a brilliant trip, i'd want to say well done & thank you to the child for their effort. you're right, he should have been named, and i wouldn't be surprised if other parents didn't ask, just out of nosiness if for no better motive.

KingCanuteIAm · 28/02/2009 21:34

I don't suppose it could be something silly could it? I know when our dcs started school we had to give permission for them to be photographed or named in any publications or on the website. I would expect that, had you said no, then they would keep his name out of a letter like this too. Perhaps more of a mis-understanding than a slight on your ds in that case?

Anyway, well done to your ds and I hope everyone enjoys their trip!

arcticwind · 28/02/2009 22:02

Rather than you speaking to the school I am sure there are lots of friendly parents who would do it for you - then you do not come across as pushy and the school relasie that actually people are intrested in all achievements.

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