To want a written apology at the very LEAST?

[fumingmum]

Yesterday morning I had a phone call from HR and they asked me to come and see them urgently. I was mytified but went along only to be faced with the head of HR telling me that one of the junior staff had put in a complaint against me saying that I was bullying him. He's not a staff member in my department but I deal with him quite often. I was told I was to be suspended until it was dealt with and I was not under any circumstances to contact him.

I pleaded total innocence as I had certainly NOT been bullying him although in my view one of my colleauges had. I was told that I had to leave the building immediately and they would be in touch.

At 3pm today I came home to a a message on my answer phone to say that I could come back tomorrow morning as they'd mixed up the paperwork and I ahd actually been cited as a WITNESS by the officer involved. There was not a word of apology. I phoned ot confirm and again not a word of apology just a statement I could go back tomorrow.

What do you think I should do? I've just been suspended for 2 days for no reason.

(I'm a regular poster but I've name changed as some of my colleagues use mumsnet)

No advice for you but just wanted to say what a bunch of bloody twats. Feel very angry for you on your behalf.

Enjoy the holiday? Only joking. Depends how big your company is. If it's massive, how could HR have known better? If it's small, it's insulting that they didn't double check when they saw it was you. I would ask for a written apology regardless, if only because if they screwed it up like that it might end up on a reference or something awful.

I would be absolutely fuming. However its not surprising given the compentence (or lack of) in most HR departments I've ever come accross.

How supportive and senior is your manager? If this was me I would go to my manager and get her to kick up a stink on my behalf.

Forgot to ask...was it unpaid? If so make them flipping well pay you.

Sorry x-posts

OMG

yanbu

i think a written aplogy should be the bare minimum too

YANBU!! I would most certainly feel that you are owed an apology for this. Frankly, if I had made such a mistake, I would have apologised at once, especially as you were suspended!

Are you part of a union? I'd be insisting that this suspension was removed from my record, and seeking a formal apology too.

This is outrageous!!

Take another couple of weeks off for stress!

OMG angry for you, I can't think of anything productive to do though that woukd make you feel better. Any decent company should have got you flowers and grovelled at least.

Have you stopped laughing at just how inept they are yet??

FFS what a bunch of incompetent tossers.

You need to make sure that this either doesn't appear on your employment record or appears with a huge red 'we fucked up' note added to it!

Go and tell them you want to make a formal complaint about their behaviour!

yanbu - you should lodge a greivance with head of unit - from there it should be best way to get apology, record update etc.

and I work for a big company and still that is not acceptable

I would be fuming too!!!

I agree with the previous posts, you need to make sure a written apology is added to your file and if money was docked from your salary you need to have it amended!!

HR departments are no longer what they use to be!!!!

I'm not sure I'd be laughing even now -I'd be fucking upset.

YANBU. Demand Ask for an apology. Put it in writing so that you can edit out the raw edges of the (justifiable) emotion.

I would make absolutely certain it didn't stay on my record and then I would speak to my line manager and get them involved in a pretty far reaching complaint

jesus that must have been awful.

i can't believe no one has apologised to you. Incredible.

Hope you are feeling ok.

I would go to the top bod and tell them what happened to you and point out that no fecker has said sorry. (in our place the MD wouldn't even have heard of the situation)

Jesus! That is absolutely dreadful. What a horribly stressful thing to happen.

Do you have a union? If so speak to them about this.

Yes, you deserve a written apology at the very least and YADefinitelyNBU!

Thank you, what a lot of replies in a few minutes. Do you think it matters that I'm supposed to be on a diet and I'm finishing a huge pack of doritos, cheese and chive dips and a bottle of wine?

The suspension was paid so that's one less thing to worry about. I will demand to see my file and I will think about putting in a complaint. It partially depends on their attitude when I see them tomorrow. If they grovel, give me lots of verbal and written apologies and explanations I MAY not take it further. If they are as useless and matter of fact as they were on the phone earlier I will take out a grivience and I will take it all the way.

Thank you again

What a horrible thing to happen. Just trying to think of things from a different angle would it be a consideration to keep the discussion more casual as in an email to HR in a week or so just mentioning you've assumed that no mention of this is on your file and were hoping for confirmation.

Purely from a human being aspect they've screwed up, you deserve an appology, they should have automatically made one, they haven't so have screwed up again. If you insist on one (which you deserve) you are potentially creating a future atmosphere with HR (even though technically and legally they would have to deny it). If you keep it more casual, make sure your back is covered by a casual note in a week or so they effectively owe you one and you never know when you can use that as a favour to call on.

Just a thought.

good luck i hope you get it sorted, and get some sort of recompense from them for this. Let us know how it goes, i find this sort of thing so completely outrageous!
ps am having crisps and wine too. tis grand.

Unbelievable!!!! What an almighty cock up.

You sound quite matter of fact about it, i would be in absolute bits.

I would definitely take this further. It must have been really stressful for you.

Make absolutely sure that the written record on your HR record is completely clear to ensure that all the complaint is removed.

Indeed, you should put it in writing what happened and insist on a reply.

If this erroneous complaint stayed on your record it may be used against you in the future and proving it was an error then will be very difficult.

Trust no one in HR.

I agree in spirit with Antagony.

It was a horrible and v upsetting thing to happen, and hopefully they will acknowledge that to you and re-assure you that nothing will ever appear in any records etc.

Presumbly they still need you to be a witmess, so ought to be being nice to you.

You can make a very strong point by being calm and factual and reasonable - don't sound off - your case is so strong that it doesn't need it. Just say 'well, obviously i have found it very upsetting and stressful to have been suspended. It may be that nothing can be done about that, But I am sure you understand that i need assurance that nothing adverse will have been left on my file'.

Were other colleagues aware that you had vbeen immediately suspended? It's ticky because the investigation onto your other colleague is underway..people might assume that you were implicated.

Yes, writing a calm factual statement of your own is a god idea.