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To really hate the falsness of some people???

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StayOutOfTheLight · 24/02/2009 14:38

We had a death in the family at the weekend. A man that to be fair, didn't like anyone and wasn't exactly popular himself. He treat people awful sometimes, especially my grandmother who he treat like a slave.

Anyway, I've just been on facebook and saw a status thing from my cousin. A cousin who routinely took the piss out of this man, called him names and laughed at him behind his back. This cousin has also kept himself away from the family for years, not bothering with anyone, walking past us in the street etc.

And the status said

"I am so shocked by the sudden passing of Grandad Pete. Words cannot express how much I am hurting. Rest in peace big man, you will be missed".

For a start, none of us EVER called him Grandad Pete! He would turn in his grave if he heard anyone call him that! And how bloody two faced and false can you get??? he hasn't bothered with anyone in the family for years and all of a sudden he's cut up about the death of someone he only used to take the piss out of anyway??

And he has loads of messages of support telling him to stay strong and people are thinking of him.

I don't know why it has annoyed me so much but I feel so infuriated. So like him to take the opportunity to gain a load of attention.

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ForeverOptimistic · 24/02/2009 14:40

He is an attention seeker, he probably doesn't give two hoots he just wants to use the death as an opportunity for lots of messages from other people. YANBU.

compo · 24/02/2009 14:41

I'm so sorry for your loss
Can I ask why you have your cousin has a 'friend' on facebook even though you don't like him or see him anymore?

LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 24/02/2009 14:42

or he's upset at treating him like shit this whole time but can't express it

DogMa · 24/02/2009 14:43

Can you not leave a message on there from "Grandad Pete"? Along the lines of "I can still see you, you snivelling bastard!"

StayOutOfTheLight · 24/02/2009 14:45

pmsl Dogma! I'd love to do that

I don't know why I have him on to be honest, he sent a friend request ages ago and I suppose curiosity got the better of me. We used to be quite close.

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Hawkmoth · 24/02/2009 14:46

You have a limited number of chances in life to be centre of attention and have unconditional sympathy... obviously that's how your cousin thinks. What a tool!

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 24/02/2009 18:29

yup, agree he is one of those annoying people who likes to hijack other people's sad situations to get attention for himself.

DadOnAHotTinRoof · 24/02/2009 18:38

God, yes, that's EXACTLY what my brother would do.

When he was told that DW was preggers and that he was to keep it to himself because it was early days, he blabbed to everybody about how excited he was that he was going to be an uncle. Cue miscarriage, much unfortunate questioning about "how's the pregnancy?" from people we hardly knew...

Four months later, DW got pregnant again. Same again, he blabbed... it went right this time, DD is now 17 months and he's seen her a grand total of 5 times. He lives 3 miles down the road.

DadOnAHotTinRoof · 24/02/2009 18:39

Sorry for your loss, by the way. :-\

HecateQueenOfGhosts · 24/02/2009 18:41

What a tit. I'm surprised you told him the second time!!

Sassybeast · 24/02/2009 18:46

Grief hijacking. Lot of it around at the moment He's probably lit aFacebook candle for Jade as well. Sorry about your Grandad - even though you don't always like someone, it can all be a bit weird.

troutpout · 24/02/2009 18:55

maybe he feels bad at the way he has behaved.
Maybe he actually is sad

lilstarry1 · 24/02/2009 19:10

I do agree with others, but then... perhaps this is his way of dealing with grief and the anger and frustration you are feeling is part of your grief? Doesn't matter how cantankerous someone is, death is always a bit of a shitter - if only because it makes you recognise your own mortality.

I'm sorry for your loss, if I were you I'd try not to feel too irked by his behaviour, he's clearly a bit of a selfish type.

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