To think that my DP shouldn't be nagging me to lose weight and then bring home packets of croissants, crumpets and two bottles of wine!!!!!

[LucyEllensmummy]

Ok, to be fair, both DP and i need to lose weight, we are not at healthy weights just now. DP has been mentioning my weight a lot just recently which is unlike him so i think he must be worried about me. My BP is on the high side of normal and im unhappy about that. He sits there and says, we should lose weight and last night he said to me on his way home from work - oh, you know you really should do something about your weight - you are not designed to be carrying that much fat (yeah yeah, a brave man indeed). Yes, he is right - So why then, when i asked him to pop to tesco for a loaf of bread, did he come home with chocolate, croissants and crumpets, and two bottles of wine. Yes, i know i don't HAVE to eat them and im going to get him to hide one of the bottles (i drank the other one all by myself last night ) and keep it for the weekend. But where is the sense in that??

Me thinks im going to have to sit down and have a wee chat to him about it. The croissants were lovely for my breakfast dipped in coffee though

BMI does take account of body composition, that's why there's quite a big range. If someone is extremely muscled then it may not but for the average person, it does.

Bruxeur whilst BMI takes no account of body composition for most of the population whose occupation isn't professional athelete the BMI is a fairly good guide.

Whilst you can be fat and still healthier than a skinny person you are still putting your body under extra stress.

LEM - it's, er, the rather unattractive bulge or overhang that exists above one's waistband, especially as it's too tight.

See here

Yes, but LEM how would you have felt if instead of the loaf of bread, he'd brought back a kilo of carrots, a bag of pumpkin seeds, two lettuces and a pot of cottage cheese? Might you have felt even more stressed? If he insists on bringing back this sort of stuff, well, the freezer is your friend, and keep the wine in your present stash...

If there is food in the house I feel twitchy until I eat it, and that's the mentality I've got to get out of. TBH if you are over 35 or so, physical exercise is unlikely to do the job on its own unless you are doing hard training/manual labour for 2 hours or more a day, but it is helpful. However, I do notice that women my sort of age (I'm about to turn 40) who are not size 18 like me, simply don't eat a whole lot. they do eat, just small portions, and not usually more than one dose of carbohydrate a day. The misleading one for me is that they are all convinced that they eat constantly and they say things like 'oh i had a huge bowl of pasta last night' by which they mean about 30g. to anyone who can scarf down 300g without it even touching the sides, this is confusing.

sorry off topic a bit as usual.

if you can be really together in it, then losing weight can be much easier than going it alone. my dp and i weren't massively overweight but decided to do a low-carb thing together and we really spurred each other on. when we broke it, we did it together and then got back on it again.

but its hard. he recently lost 5 kilos in 5 weeks from running and eating ryebread and muesli while i have been a lot more half-hearted about the whole thing and prolly lost just a few pounds. it pisses me off if he looks better than me though . . .

we need to meal plan together and then get the right groceries in order to really make it happen.

sycamoretree...thank you, if you look as good as you sound you have nothing to worry about either.

LEM
I am a little bit shorter than you (5footnothing) and was 14 stone 6 about 6 months after the birth of DS 4.5 years ago. A big problem with me is that I look slimmer than I am as my face stays relatively slim even when my bum doesn't fit into chairs. So, it is easy to fool myself that I don't actually look that bad.

When I see photos of myself then I am so shocked and embarrassed.

I started weightwatchers and lost 20kg, erm what is that? 3 stone? I have put on a bit recently and am trying to lose it again.

DH really supported me but even then he would sometimes bring home chocolates. I did get to the stage where I could ignore them and eventually he stopped.

You need to tell your DH that if he wants to bring you something then it has to be reasonably healthy. If he wants to treat you then he can buy scones, which are not as high in fat than say a cream donut.

TJ
Oh, you and your DH are like us. DH lost loads of weight in a few weeks with running and I am still a good bit overweight. It pisses me off, tbh.

I just phoned DP at work, caught him in the cafe!!! Eating the following : TWO sausages, TWO slices of bacon TWO eggs, beans, tomatoes, mushrooms, and two big slices of bread, washed down with tea!!! Fat git!!!