To not want my kids to grow up any more...

[Pheebe]

DS1 is 4.5, DS2 is 1.5 and they are both just perfect gorgeous scrumptious cuddly as they are.

For ds1 the world is still a wonderful happy friendly place, full of nice people smiles and fun. For ds2 every day and every thing is an adventure.

I don't want them to find out what a shitty place the world really is, I want them to be my little men forever...

I know I am btw, It's just hit me that ds1 starts school this year

yanbu...lots of mums feel like this when their kids reach that age just before school.

But..
ds is 11 and still gorgeous and scrumptious (ok not so cuddly )
and dd is 6 and all of those things too

it is amazing watching them grow and change ...you will have so much fun

Thanks troutpout, I know you're right The time just seems to be flying by so quickly...

But the world is also a fantastic place aswell y'know!

I think i must be mad then, because i can't wait until september when he goes full time!!!

my youngest was 8 last friday and i told him he had to stop growing up from now on, as 8 was quite big enough tyvm

I was just thinking this today on my way to school. My DD1 is 8 and my DTs are 4.5 and they are really lovely (at times!!!!).

I hated the thought of my DD1 going to school but she really has grown beautifully into a confident, happy, girl. The best feeling in the world is standing waiting on her coming out of school when she comes flying towards me with her uniform dishevelled and crumpled, tie cast aside, hair band smeared with paint and a painting big enough to be a dress being dragged in the wind behind her. She then talks constantly for about 15 minutes before breathing out and saying "how was your day mama". Bliss

My DTs start school in August and they just don't seem old enough at all!!!!

Nature is a bastard at times

I have these thoughts quite a lot when I look at my boys. They look so beautiful and they are so sweet and innocent.

I feel that way about DD she is coming up 2 and and so sweet and funny and loving I just want her to stay this way for ever!

Then yesterday my grown up sons (25 and 23) came to visit and I was so proud of the lovely young men they had grown up to be

It's funny, but I have these thoughts all the time, but every new age and stage that they get to is the one that I want to keep them at forever, ie they just keep getting better and more interesting and more fun the older they get.

I've always thought that about mine, and now they are 13 and 9. I still think, Oh I'd like them to stay just as they are. And recently I've taken to thinking that in only 5 years time or so, I'll have 2 adults. And I like having children!!

But having said that, I wouldn't change the age they are and go back to them being toddlers. So I guess it will be fine when it happens

The world doesn't have to be a shitty place. There is still a lot of joy and kindness and fun to be had

agree with frumpygrumpy
when they start school they are so full of what they've been doing, they learn so much, I find it a really exciting time and a proud one too as you know that you have created these lovely independent people who carry trays full with diner on them everyday and don't drop them

One of my boys turned 13 last week and the other is almost 12. We took them out for a meal to celebrate his birthday and I then sat back and thought how great it was to see how my babies have grown up. Their company is a real pleasure - we chat about a sorts of things - had a great laugh - and I thought wow - having older children is really fun!
The world can seem scary place when your children are little but as they grow your outlook and attitude changes and you realise it is only as scary as you let it be.
We have worked hard with our children at every stage to ensure that they know right from wrong, have manners and that they know they are a valued part of our family. We are now being paid back with children who are able to comprehend both the good and bad in the world - and are secure enough in themselves to know that their choices and behaviour are the biggest influenece on how their lives will develop.
I think YANBU because it is so hard to look into the future when your children are still so young - but please don't think your children will lose that wonder in the world just because they grow up. My house is still full of fun, we still believe people are fundamentally good and we still have lots adventures! - also my boys may not be quite so little anymore - but I am still their mum and despite doing some very good impressions of a deranged fishwife at times - they still love me, hug me and eat me out of house and home - some things just never change!

...or don't drop them often!

YANBU but it's more about us than them when we feel this way, isn't it?

Dd will go to big school in September and I'm already aaaaaargh about it, when I think of the big show her nursery will do in June when she gets her leaving cert and the teachers (and mums) all cry, I want to start already.....then I remember that she's already really excited about big school and I try and get a grip.....

I know how you feel pheebe, but at every stage of DD's life I have said "ooh, this is just the best age" and I am hoping that there is always an element of that. DD is nearly 3 and is just so cute at the moment - funny, engaging and fascinated with the world and as much as I'd love to freeze the picture I know that there is more joy to come.

One thing I have done is started writing her letters about what she is like and what we have been doing (on birthday's and christmas' or other special occasions). this is for my benefit as much as hers. There is so much I am worried about forgetting, writing it down sort helps preserve it.

Have you seen Mamma Mia - there is a song that is sung which is all about wishing you could freeze the picture and feeling like your child is slipping through your fingers - Donna sings it on the morning of her daughters wedding. It is so sad I cried buckets.

mice, that is such a lovely post.