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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to slap the teenage nightmare that lives next door?

22 replies

drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:15

i wouldnt, but i really want to.... he's the most obnoxious little twonk ive ever met. so far he has destroyed £500 of garden toys, broken into the rabbit hutch and stole the rabbit.broken the car window.assaulted my ds2,&dd3 . lets his dog defacate on my garden and doesnt pick it up.smashed up the fence several times, stole my wheelie bins and set them on fire,took a hammer to the brick wall around our houses and smashed chunks out of it. stole ds2's football off him. his latest trick is puting an glass beer bottle on our door handle and knocking on the door( so we answer and the bottle falls off and smashes). when asked to stop knocking on the door ,(at 11pmish) because he'll wake up our disabled daughter he said to me " you should have kept your legs shut then ". i had to hold dh back from him.... its too much to ask for to live in peace apparently!

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scrooged · 24/02/2009 00:17

One word for you. ASBO. Your council has an anti social behaviour officer, keep a diary and get in touch with them. You shouldn't have to live like this.

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:18

the little "darling" is 15 yr old! cocky little shit knows the police cant do much, and plays on it.

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myfunnynametaken · 24/02/2009 00:19
  • how old is he?
scrooged · 24/02/2009 00:20

Yes they can! If the little shit gets given one then he can get arrested. Give the council a call in the morning.

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:23

council have been great-not. i got 10 points added to waiting list for moving house because of the harrassment.but no chance of moving as theres few council houses, and i cant buy as i only work part time because of dd4.think he asked for an ASBO for his xmas. its like a badge of honour to the little shit and his gang of hoodlums friends

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scrooged · 24/02/2009 00:24

Oh dear. Can you get a high powered hose pipe and squirt the little sod whenever he's on your garden?

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:29

oid love too, but the luck ive had- id get into bother !i feel sorry for his mum, she's sick of his behavour too. he gives her abuse all the time ans swears at her too.
its a shame, because she tries, but he just wont listen too her either.

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scrooged · 24/02/2009 00:31

Could she contact Barnardos? They are very useful helping families with 'wayward' children.

I'm off to bed, head's banging but I'll have a think.

Quattrocento · 24/02/2009 00:35

Dear God in Heaven

Can you call the police? Repeatedly? Until they take note?

How can this sort of behaviour exist?

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:36

i dont know, they have a SW . i know because she came to my house by mistake one day!i think he is just "bad" ,not wayward. he doesnt want help , from what i can tell he enjoys making people miserable!

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 00:39

all the police do is give him warnings.

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missfib · 24/02/2009 01:06

if i was his mother i would give the little twit a right smack!
feel for you dont know how you cope with it!
have you tried ringing police and get them to charge him with criminal damage but you have to see him doing it,we had a young idiot knock over our lamp on the front of our house and got him charged with criminal damage never had any trouble of him since then.
why are there so many kids out there like this today ???

Tortington · 24/02/2009 01:16

you have to phone the police repeatedly

Hawkmoth · 24/02/2009 15:59

Go to your MP. They deal with this sort of thing all the time. Keep diaries.

Your MP will write to housing, police, anyone you want them to so that you get the wheels in motion.

Horrible stuff, and you're so strong, I would have lost it for sure.

loopylil · 24/02/2009 21:40

keep a diary of his behaviour with times and events if you can catch him on a mobile phone camera do that
don't engage with him anymore by giving him any reactions or interaction i.e opening the door he won't knock the door all night long but he might do until he gets bored though so be prepared to have a couple hrs of continous knocking while he tries to break you down maybe make arrangments to have some care for the kids for a couple of days while you tackle this head on
get this stopped right now because hes escalating in his behaviour i know you must feel you have your hands tied and certainly your husband can't lay a finger on him but this has to stop so far you've listed

criminal damage
common assault
arson
theft
intimidation

hes a very troubled boy and needs some help asap before he becomes a troubled man.... also your kids are watching this all and are learning that bullies get away with it so thats another thing to consider

i have genuine sympathy we have trouble with the teenage boy next door firing an air rifle at birds (he throws bread onn the roof then shoots them when in range)he used to do it all the time and when my 2 year old son is playing outside (i bring my son in immediately) when i found pellet holes in my watering can and flower pots i was truly terrified and upset my partner went round and spoke to his mother and i spoke to him myself. it has stopped but it was a terrible time.

keep strong and don't get cowed by this young boy.
good luck

Guadalupe · 24/02/2009 21:48

How awful for you. Agree with others, keep a diary and keep reporting constantly.

toddlerama · 24/02/2009 21:51

God what a nightmare. I know he might think an ASBO is a badge of honour, but if he has one preventing him harassing you, the police CAN'T just caution him. He's broken the conditions and there are penalties in increasing severity.

I know it's awful but PLEASE don't retaliate physically or allow your husband to. The worst outcome here is that YOU get charged with assault! How old is he? Lots of prats think they're alright if they're under 16 which isn't true. If he's 14+ the police should be treating this as serious. Although he probably wouldn't be tried as an adult, he could be.

Seriously, like Scrooged said, contact your anti-social behaviour officer. You don't have to live like this.

x

herbietea · 24/02/2009 21:55

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ChippingIn · 24/02/2009 22:11

Sorry to hear this, it sounds like a complete nightmare. I was expecting you to say he was about 10...but 15??

Tell him to get a life, ask him why he's not out with a girlfriend, any friends?? NO NO NO - OK not the best way forward, so then in agreement with what everyone else has said, keep records and be the squeeky wheel!

2shoes · 24/02/2009 22:13

oh drlove you poor thing. we have only just stoppped tha shits up the road giveing us greif, i wish you luck.

nannyL · 24/02/2009 22:14

YANBU

Janos · 24/02/2009 22:33

How horrendous for you. YANBU at all

My gut instinct would be to shoot the little bastard but obviously you can't do that, as it's illegal. Plus you would have the stress of the court case etc.

Please do keep a diary of the abuse as others have suggest and keep hassling the police, the council, your MP, anyone and everyone who could help.

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