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to expect that just occasionally my DH could give me a hug....

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thumbwitch · 23/02/2009 22:29

without feeling the need to dry-hump me from behind???

It's really starting to wind me up - there I am making DS's dinner/washing up/cleaning my teeth, DH comes up behind me to give me a hug and suddenly it's dry-hump attack! I wouldn't mind if it was only occasionally, but it's EVERY BLOODY TIME!

(yes we are having sex, thanks )

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drlove8 · 24/02/2009 09:38

it is irratating THUMB, sort of puts you off sex altogether........ whats wrong with the blokes ? i've told dh the quickest way to bet some (ahem) action , is to whip the hoover out or do the dishes, as i'll end NOT knackered at end of day, an dmore likely up for it when kids are asleep then. trying to shove fingers up orifaces and groping is not the way to go!...... DH if you are lurking and read this...... that gold bangle in our favorite jewlers is GUARENTEED to get you some action- knackered or not!..... so will fitting new laminate in the bathroom! lol xxx

MascaraOHara · 24/02/2009 09:40

I've never been with a bloke that does this. Is it regional?

drlove8 · 24/02/2009 09:48

dunno? im in scotland,only ever been with exh and dh. never lived with anyone else(apart from parents lol)so dont have much to go on..... exH doesnt count as i wasnt really his type......(turns outhe was gay and married to have kids, but thats a whole other thread).dh is a groper!

Marthasmama · 24/02/2009 09:49

Moondog - My poor mother didn't know where to put herself. Now she is wary of him every time he's hung over. Not of course wary that he might grind her behind but that she might have to witness it again. Men really are like dogs.

bruxeur · 24/02/2009 09:50

I think it happens more in southern areas, MOH.

drlove8 · 24/02/2009 10:04

marthasmama....pmsl @ your poor mum witnessing! no wonder she's wary! lol.

MascaraOHara · 24/02/2009 10:10

Lol, I'm on the most northernly point of the South East I reckon.. It's a bit back-water though but no men seem to do it round 'our way'

I've never heard girls moaning about it anywya.. will do a straw poll of friends over the weekend!

thumbwitch · 24/02/2009 13:04

pmsl at "southern areas" - DH is Australian!

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OrmIrian · 24/02/2009 13:05

Slap him sharply on the nose whilst saying 'No!' in a loud clear voice.

thumbwitch · 24/02/2009 13:06

ROFL! Treat him like a jack russell, you mean?

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OrmIrian · 24/02/2009 13:06

Well exactly. Teach him to know his place!

Mummy2LZ · 24/02/2009 13:32

My DH is an Aussie too and he is just the same!
More like an exhuberant labrador than a Jack Russel though! lol

ABetaDad · 24/02/2009 14:32

The normally recommended treatment for a dog that keeps doing this to people's legs is to have him neutered.

Maybe the OP should have a chat with the vet.

cannydoit · 24/02/2009 14:46

my h is the same never a hug with out his hands heading south even if i`m upset. i asked a male friend about it he said he thought my hubby had the libido of a 14yr old boy.lol

Poledra · 24/02/2009 14:51

Bucket of cold water over his head?
Put him out into the back garden?

potplant · 24/02/2009 15:21

Mine too - he thinks it affectionate I think its groping.

The only time he has ever given me a hug that didn't include a grope of my knockers was when my gran died.

I've tried being annoyed, laughing it, ignoring and he still does it.

sarah76 · 24/02/2009 19:34

After being married to a man who never wanted sex and thought that cuddling me WHILE I WAS ASLEEP was enough intimacy, I don't mind DH2's hug-humping. Any irritation I might sometimes feel is usually tempered by remembering how completely unwanted I felt in my first marriage. Given a choice, I'd rather be humped!

thumbwitch · 24/02/2009 19:42

thanks sarah, you are right, I would rather put up with it than have no affection

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OrmIrian · 25/02/2009 11:00

DH did this last night. I told him it was caled Jack-Russelling. He was a little offended I think. He meant it to be seductive...

He is also asking me what kind of site MN is

OrmIrian · 25/02/2009 11:01

Well I'd rather have affection that wasn't dependent on his dick .

thumbwitch · 25/02/2009 16:35

I agree with that too, though, OrmIrian!

DH was delighted with this thread, I told him I was going to do it (in fact I think he suggested it!) and he thought the responses very good.

Mind you, he roared with laughter over the thread criticising AnyFucker's name and the subsequent namechanges of many other MNers as well - he has no illusions as to what sort of site MN is

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