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Original poster

I don't want another baby but I yearn to be pregnant

32 replies

Haribosmummy · 23/02/2009 20:16

What's up with me?

I know I can't cope with another baby - physically, mentally, financially, etc

But I really, really want to be pregnant again.

I loved being PG with DS (9 months) and I adore him more than anything.... but I know having another baby now would not be straight forward... but the urge is still there.

I KNOW IABU... but what do I do to talk myself out of it?

OP posts:
MrsMattie · 23/02/2009 20:17

Hell knows. I only ever wanted two children. I've now got them. The youngest is only 3 mths old. I have shit pregnancies and c-section births. I know I don't want anymore children. Except I do. I crave being pregnant again. If you find a way to cure it, let me know!

SparkyFartDust · 23/02/2009 20:18

oh I feel that way too

empathy

BCNS · 23/02/2009 20:20

ewwww noo.. I love my babies muchly and all that.. but I hated every minute of pregnancy... remember the tiredness.. the is that all I've got to wear.. my back aches and I feel sick...

that'll put you back on track

Frasersmum123 · 23/02/2009 20:20

Me too!

I dont want anymore children, but I would love to be pregnant again, and to give birth.

aGalChangedHerName · 23/02/2009 20:20

I have 4 dc ages 2.6 to 17.6 and i would love to be pg again too. DH and i decided not to have anymore after dd2 and he had the snip.

We can't have another but it doesn't take away the longing for pg

I was always healthy and felt great when i was pg,was a lovely time for me and i do look back and remember it with affection.

I think some of us just love being pg lol.

2cats2many · 23/02/2009 20:21

I'm with BCNS. I hate being pregnant, but love the birth and baby bit.

luckylady74 · 23/02/2009 20:21

I loved being pregnant, but won't be having anymore- the urge was strongest when my 3 were 9 mths because of hormones I think so it may lessen.
for the odd pang I find discussing my pregnancies on mumsnet in answer to questions mums to be post is good - despite the fact that my youngest have just turned 4!
YANBU

plonker · 23/02/2009 20:23

God I hated being pg! I enjoy the birth and would love more children, but being pregnant? God no!

ilovemydogandMrObama · 23/02/2009 20:24

Trade - I want another baby, but hate being pregnant

DorisIsAPinkDragon · 23/02/2009 20:25

Definitely a marmite situation , I hate being pregnant and am only doing it again becuase of the reward at the end! (but this is definitely the last time As dh has promised to get the snip...

Original poster
Haribosmummy · 23/02/2009 20:25

I just adored being PG. Everything about it. Every part. I just felt wonderful.

Maybe it is the hormones, but I just want to feel that way again.

I am so glad you don't think I'm being unreasonable.

OP posts:
noonki · 23/02/2009 20:26

I have 2 DCs one DSS a cat and a dog and still can't get rid of that yearning.

I have to keep reminding myself that it a natural urge aimed at ensuring we keep reproducing. EVENTUALLY it must sink in.

Everytime one of mine wakes in the night I say no more...

but every cuddle and kiss I get makes me so broody.

arggghhhh

kizzib · 23/02/2009 20:51

I hated being pregnant (complications), hated the birth and found the first few months afterwards very difficult, so I have no urge for another!

unpaidworker · 23/02/2009 20:53

Apparently its nature, our bodies are designed to want to have more and more babies.

clemette · 23/02/2009 20:53

Me too - and I spend my time teaching pregnant women how to give birth which makes it even worse. If they were born aged 1 I would have a brood but as it is I make very tricky babies so can't cope with another one!
The only answer is surrogacy

clemette · 23/02/2009 20:55

Just to add ebing pregnant with number two is NOWHERE near as nice as being pregnant with number one as there is no time to rest/be precious (but I still adored it...)

debs40 · 23/02/2009 20:57

I hated being pregnancy and crappy childbirth and I never thought I'd say this but.....I really feel like I want another one (I have two already).

I was only rejoicing the other day about how much easier it was now they're older but my friend has just had a baby and I have started to think...what if?

I'm 41..is that too risky/old?

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 23/02/2009 21:00

be a surrogate?

Booboobedoo · 23/02/2009 21:00

I think trading is a great idea.

We're about to try for another, but the thought of being PG again fills me with horror and dread.

Couldn't MN have some kind of surrogate-matching section?

I'd sign straight up.

.

Booboobedoo · 23/02/2009 21:00

kitchen

Flightattendant27 · 23/02/2009 21:01

Yep, sign me up for the baby bit please. Or alternatively knock me out for 9 months!

abbierhodes · 23/02/2009 21:07

I hate pregnancy and don't want a baby, but I want another child!!! We are ttc no 3, but for me the baby bit is the sacrifice! I like toddlers and older kids!

mummymimi · 23/02/2009 21:18

I have 4 children aged from 16 weeks to 12 years and I can't get my head around the fact I will never be pregnant again. I can no way have any more, can't afford it, have no more space in the house etc etc!!

Some days I am happy with it as I would like to take a degree course in a year or two and some days I am tempted to say to hubby that I want another baby in the near future (he would happily have more).

Pesha · 23/02/2009 21:20

YANBU, I get terrible morning sickness that lasts for the full 9 months, headaches, exhaustion, back ache, sciatica, spd... yet I still long to do it all again. And to give birth, I mean it really hurts ffs so why do I want to do it again?!

I have 3 dc already, and they've all been really hard babies, bfing constantly for the first 6 months and I don't want to do all that again. I can't afford another, I'd need a bigger car and quite possibly a bigger house and at times I'm quite happy with that but other times I just get so broody and would love to do it all again. If it weren't for dp being so against having more I would probably have given in to it and be pg again by now!

CoteDAzur · 23/02/2009 21:21

Can you be a surrogate mother?

Sounds like it is what you want.

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