to think this person on my antental thread is selfish?

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Have changed names because I don't want to offend anyone on my MN antental thread.

It's a great thread with some lovely supportive people on it. But there's one member who I find very selfish. She only posts when she wants to ask a question or needs some support. Never responds to anyone else's posts. Several times now the post directly above hers is about how someone has just suffered a MC or is very ill, but this poster doesn't even make it any mention of it, unlike everyone else. I'm lucky in that my pregnancy is so far healthy and normal, but I feel it's bad form that this person can't spend one sec saying how sorry she is to hear someone's bad news. I know that we don't all have the time to read all the posts and I wouldn't blame anyone for that, but this poster never provides anyone with support, just takes it.

So, AIBU?

Its very bitchy to start a thread about it, grow up [hmm
some ppl are givers, some ppl are takers, get over it!

YABU for thinking she's selfish but from your posts you're obviously a first time expectant mum yourself so we shouldn't be jumping on you.

It may be that she has other small children and can just pop in and out or, as has been suggested, she just uses the forum as a sounding board.

Just enjoy your own pregnancy and the bond you have on your AN thread and don't worry about others.

Fio and White Tea: before you posted, I had already apologised twice for starting this thread. I do feel bad about it. Not quite sure what the 'her mother may have died' comment is about???

In my defence, I'm not talking about one post this person has made, I'm talking about every single one of her posts over some time now. She simply just asks for advice and never asks how anyone else is, never gives anyone else advice and never thanks people for all the good advice they have given her. I just find it a bit rude really when people have gone out of their way to help her, but maybe that's just me and I'm out of order for looking at it that way. She doesn't have any other children, no, and I don't think she uses this site apart from the AN thread.

I don't respond to her posts anymore, so this isn't really a personal slight. But obviously I am not perfect either!