To want to buy unisex clothes?

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I don't know what flavour bump is likely to be, but would like to start buying a few quality bits and pieces from ebay. I'm just wondering if I'm being too open-minded though - I mean, would I scar a DS for life if I dressed him in this or these with this?

At the moment I can't imagine I'd have any problems with dressing a little girl in a blue babygro or trousers - after all, could always use a pretty top if necessary. Do you think this is likely to change though after hte baby is born? Am I being unfair?

the baby will not care

you might get fed up with all the commenst from other people though

I don't like the pants, but the other two are great, specially like the hoody!

All the outfits I saved from my DD are decidedly unisex, including the red and blue pirate dungarees, which NOONE asked if she was a boy when she wore them...

Cream is so difficult to wash!

White with red spots seems neutral enough to me, but the pink cat would probably have people assuming a DD. I'd avoid pink or pale blue until they turn up, but bright primary colours would be OK.

None of this is going to give the baby a complex anyway, but you will get so bored of correcting the assumptions that you'll regret it!

Personally I didn't like trying to put a newborn in outfits. I much preferred vests/babygros. I'd hold on if you can!

Congratulations, and good luck.

The outfits are just too girly in my opinion. Of course a baby boy wouldn't care a monkey as long as they're comfortable but why expose yourself to some odd looks and possibly comments. You might even find yourself cringing when you look at photos some time in the future. Hold on till you know or just look for ones that are more obviously unisex.

i bought neutral vests, sleepsuits in first size and then got girly stuff in bigger sizes when dd was born.
i wouldn't have minded dd being in blue as a baby but she is 19 months now and only in 9-12 clothes so make sure you don't buy large sizes as if baby is small like mine they will be in them a long time.

I have a DD on the way and millions of blue babygros. (second hand from friends who all had boys!) I have found that once I found out she was a girl I've shopped around and got a few 'girl' things that mark her out a bit more obviously, hats and coats etc. Just because I don't want to have to explain she is a girl all the time.

However, I wish there was more unisex non-white clothing around! I really wanted plain bright colours that I could use for a child of either sex, but there's not a whole lot available. rainbow babies are good though

Of course you won't scar anyone, but but ditto Kristina, you may get sick of saying 'actually she's a he' to well-meaning baby-cooers in the supermarket.

I dressed DD in unisex clothes (apart from the sea of pink we were given by very kind people, who clearly didn't know me very well ) and I still do to some extent cos she looks so brilliant in blue (she's 2.8) and I'm so sick of girls clothes being covered in pink sparkly flowers and fairies. But I did/still do get sick of other people saying 'he', which is starting to get insulting, frankly, cos she's such a stereotypicaly pretty girl - blonde curls, blue eyes - but people can't be arsed to look beyond the colour she's dressed in. And they assume that any tiny dot half way up a massive climbing frame clearly designed for kids twice her size, must be a boy. Grrrrr.

BTW, if you choose the right places you can still get 'quality' bits and pieces at second hand sales, and then if you have a change of heart about your DC's style after it arrives, you haven't lost much. I've bagged quite a few bits of mini-boden and other stuff I couldn't/wouldn't otherwise afford, all in great nick.

The other words of caution, though, are these:

a) chances are you will be inundated with gifts and offers of loaners/hand me downs, so don't go mad or your DC won't even get to wear half of it, and
b) 'proper' clothes look cute but can be overly bulky, and a pain in the arse to wrestle an uncooperative infant into. You may want to throw a few babygrows in there too..?

Thank you. All helpful. I sort of assumed that both boys and girls could get away with wearing bright primary colours, and I do get a bit fed up of seeing boys only in blue and girls only in pink. I hadn't thought of the frustration of others always assuming though.

I hadn't really imagine starting trying to dress the baby properly before about 4 months. Is that too early? Better to wait to 6?

You will just get fed up with your DH/DP giving you bellyache about it, that's all. I had some great bits for DS, some bought even once he was born, that eventually I had to give up on because DH was always giving me the old raised eyebrow.

My advice is to look on ebay for a lot of the scandanavian brands, which are TRULY unisex - just lots of primary colours. Like this here and here and here

No I am all for unisex clothes.

But.. You may scar your DC for life if all the clothes are boden

Bright primary colours are lovely on babies, I think. Hard to find for cheap though. Have you tried H&M though? Their stuff is nice, more variation in colour than other places.

Some people will always get gender wrong. DS can be dressed head to toe in blue, being pushed in a blue buggy and people still call him "she" as his hair is a little long.

I like those things & don't think they are too girly-looking! Esp. the cat which I would say is purple not pink.

Boots sometimes have quite nice neutral-coloured baby clothes, I got some green and yellow babygrows there... also a few nice ones in Mothercare, chocolate-brown with orange (they were nicer than that sounds, honest!). You just have to hunt around a bit!

I agree though it is annoying having to look so hard, I was just the same before DS was born, determined to avoid pink and baby-blue at all costs!

I never knew with either bumpington

I have never minded second hand clothes the rate they grown I'm just bloody not forking out for clothes
so I bought plain white vests & grows with motifs on like animals etc

plain knit cardis and plain white teddy all in one coat thing

onesies that were either sex you get funny things like elephant feet and penguin flippers and what not ( YES YES I'm evil)

I prefer clothes but that's just me we fit in with our own ideas

my DD always wore little frocks etc because she was a spring baby and I just have a soft spot for baby fashion
my DS wore onesies for the first few weeks and then jeans and jumpers at 10 months he wears sleepsuit to bed and top & trousers in the day.

I think I still don't get it. For example, to me, the children in this picture, particularly the one on the left, could be either boys or girls. If I didn't know them, it wouldn't really bother me what gender they were, and if I did know them, I'd have a clue by their name! Is this something I won't really understand until I've experienced the endless frustration of people getting it wrong?!

Yes - because the people that get it wrong tend to be a bit embarassed when you point it out, and it's all a bit awkward

During her first winter, I had DD in a lovely caramel coloured, soft as anything, all in one thin fleecelike polar suit from GAP with a hood with a knot at the top and a little silver and red embroidered snowflake on it. It was adorable, and so practical as not at all bulky... but EVERYONE thought she was a boy in it. I did persevere, but it got to the point where I pretended not to hear the grannies cooing in M&S and avoided eye contact so I didn't have to get into another round of gender confusion