by asking my friend to share the school runs equally?

[NewTeacher]

Hi there

My friend and I share the school run which works well most of the time! She has changed the rota a few times and I've not quibbled as my AP does it and she is at home.

At the moment we seem to be doing more school runs than she does which I have been ok with as well (she is not working at the mo so no excuse really as she is at home).

I got annoyed today because I asked for a bit of a change as I need to pick my DC on the day she normally does it as he has started a new club. So I asked if she could do one of the pick ups my AP does instead. Basically she has said no because she is now starting work for her DH on those 2 days! (No mention of this prior to me asking!) Then she says why is it that she has to do an extra pick up? She has worked out that I want to even out the school runs so we are doing equal shares.

AIBU? This is the same friend who does twist things so I always look like I'm the bad one! (See my previous post about how she uses my AP for free childcare).

I just thought it would be fair to even out the school run especially since not long ago she changed it so that I ended up doing an extra one for her.

Hi.

I saw your thread about this "friend" and the way she treats your AP.

If I were you I'd think about getting another friend, it seems to me that she is happy to take what she can from your friendship and it doesn't look like she is prepared to give much in return.

I would stop sharing with her.

yanbu but in your shoes I'd be thinking of sharing with another family or seeing if my AP could manage by herself..

i also saw your thread, and your so called friend takes the piss and wants free childcare through your AP

is there anyone else you can share with?

if not, is it possible that you/your ap does all your runs and other mum does all her own - iykwim

Yes, I saw your other thread, I think you need to start looking after no1 which is you.

Haven't seen other thread but suspect she just sees it as an employee doing the run , and getting paid for it regardless, so why not have hers as well ? Maybe she does have these commitments now , on the assumption that those days are covered , but you can still say you need to collect your dc so she needs to make her own arrangements for that day, rather than even suggest a swap. Hopefully she'll find another "friend" to call on.

Tell her if she is unwilling to do her share then she can do all her dc drop off and pick ups herself!

Thanks ladies. My AP can do all the school runs thats what I employed her for.

I was doing a favour for this friend when she was working and now she isnt I think she's taking the P*.

I will have a discussion with her and drop the whole school run share as I dont benefit in any way!

Just tell her it is not working out and it is better if you drop the arrangement as you cant do what she is requesting.