We have two daughters aged nearly eight and five and a son who is two and a half.
I am a SAHM, dh works full-time.
Dh eats with us every night, then helps at getting the children ready for bed, then reads stories to one of the dd's (I do the other one), then often helps at getting ds off to sleep.
At the weekends we will go on family outings together about once or twice a month. Apart from that dh is nearly always around at the weekend, but he doesn't specifically do anything with the children, no acitivities as such. So he might go off to a DIY place and be happy to take them along, or he might potter in the garden and they might be out there with him, or he might read the paper in the playroom and he will sit there and read the paper... so "benign neglect" is what I'd call it. I feel though that he should do some stuff with them at the weekend that concentrates purely on them, so maybe play a game or take the dd's swimming. He doesn't see the need.
So who is being U?