to be annoyed with DH?

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Have had the mother of all bad days today, a relative died and DD was very unwell with a sickness bug and had to see out-of-hours GP.
That's irrelevant though,as he always does this.
Basically we had decided to watch a film on Tv, we don't get to do this enough and I was looking forward to it.
15 minutes before start of film his parents called. They always talk for an hour. He refused to say to them that we'd planned to watch a film, is still chatting away, and I have given up and gone to bed. They always call in the short time we have child-free.
Anyway, i'm pretty fed up with it. AIBU? or should I be more understanding as he is a bit scared of his strict demanding parents? I just would have enjoyed the time together and really feel my evening is spoilt.
Go on, I can take it!
And no,we can't record the film!

Next time, get a babysitter and go out. Make it a real date, and leave the mobile phones at home.

It is very frustrating when this happens.

My dh will not ignore the phone, which I find annoying. I feel that if something is really urgent a message will be left.

forgot to say I am sorry you had such a crap day, hope Sunday is better.

can understand how irritated you must be.

but more importantly...what a fantastic name you have!

aww, thanks,all of you.

Actually i now sort of feel AIBU as he is just a bit too scared of offending his parents, not his fault i suppose.
But grrrr anyway, it is annoying!

I mean IABU!

Agghhh, dh does this - and I also have a mix of feelings about it
I am really pleased he is so close to his parents, they are lovely & I am lucky to have such fab in-laws
BUT
They talk for ages about TAT. he will not ignore the phone or say 'Can I call you back in 5 mins/30 mins/tomorrow'

Partly, i think, it's due to different expectations - my family are close, but much less 'in each others pockets' and would be utterly unsurprised to be told to feck off for a bit His family are much nicer to each other.

YANBU, it pisses me off too. Any other day of the week, but when we have planned something it annoys me. We don't get to go out so arranging to watch a film is our idea of a date night.

YANBU. DH does this every Sunday night, on the phone to his parents for an hour. I wouldn't mind so much but he only gets 2 evenings off a week. Pisses me off.

YANBU - you had a 'date' he had 15 mins for a quick chat - then BYE gotta go! Talk to him, tell him how you feel... hopefully next time he'll think about your feelings Failing that - unplug the phone next time

YANBU - scared of his parents?! He's a grown man for goodness sake.

You need to talk to him about this and explain how neglected it has understandably made you feel. You had a date! He should have made it clear he could only speak for 15mins then, and rung back tomorrow.

My lovely MIL also rings for an hour at a time, but it backfires for her as DH finds that really annoying so lets her go to answerphone sometime. He also knows not to let her phonecalls get in the way of our agreed plans (unless of course she is having some sort of crisis - I'm not a monster!).

Ooh, and like the unplug the phone option - v. sneaky ChippingIn - but it could definitely work!