to think that my sister could have cleaned up all the dog shit in her garden before I arrived with my toddler in tow?

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It drives me mad (and I think it's disgusting) - my sister's dogs shit all over the garden and they just leave it. We were invited over today (long standing arrangement) for lunch and a walk then tea.

We were sitting outside (was sunny and also my sister smokes) and she says casually 'oh don't let E walk on the grass, lots of dog poo there'. He's a toddler FGS! So of course he is tottering round after the dogs and I had to keep picking him up and dragging him kicking and screaming back onto the patio.

AIBU to think it wouldn't have hurt her/her DH/her DD (who is 18) to have cleared up the shit just this once? You can't really relax if you think your DS is about to tip into a heap of dog shit every five seconds

maybe she hadn't planned on you being in the garden?

I'd just refuse to go in the garden. I'd say loudly, 'no, small child, you cannot go out, it's awash with poo out there.'

I'd go to the park later if we all wanted a walk.

Yeah I thought that but we didn't arrive till midday and by 11 it was obvious the weather was gorgeous. It doesn't take that long to clean up shit does it? Half an hour at the outside if there's loads of it - they don't have a big garden

You could have cleaned it up if it bothered you. Or gone inside with your ds. Their house, their way of doing things.

You sound a bit precious tbh.

If it's a small garden how does she stand the smell especially as (we hope) it's about to get warmer. Really vile, and yes even in feb it wouldn't have been unreasonable of her to anticipate that your child might be in the garden.

Oooh yuck - how can they leave it theree all the time? That is hugely grim - yanbu.

At least she warned you that there was poo on the garden, i use the back garden for the dog (the children don't play out there until the summer) and we use the front garden for the children.

Everyone was sitting outside. All the doors were open. No way we could have sat inside without looking really rude and it would have been impossible to have kept my DS inside. And cleaning it up? Bloody hell - if anyone started cleaning when they came round to my house, I'd show them the door!

Disgusting. We have dogs at times, but we always clear up after them wether we are out or in our back garden. She certainly shouldn't have expected you to sit our with her while she was smoking if she wasn't going to make her garden child friendly.

YANBU - this happens at my dad's house too - disgusting.

I wouldn't have bothered about seeming rude. I'd just have said I couldn't go outside because my toddler would stand in shit. Really. That's pretty disgusting of them

I don't understand people who don't pick it up daily, or at least every other day. It's only a two minute job.

Of course the garden should have been cleared of poo, but maybe if your sister doesn't have little ones it isn't something she thought about.

No, of course YANBU (or precious, so yah boo sucks to you, ib).
It's disgusting - and if she has an ounce of common sense she would know you'd be going out there as I presume she wouldn't smoke in the house when you're round with your DS. If it hadn't registered she should have said "hold on, I'll just clear up the poo so E can play there".

Not that I'd be happy about my toddler playing on grass that had been recently covered in poo either, but then I AM precious about dog shit around my DC's

Yanbu. But I do think you were an absolute muppet for sitting out there at all. So what if it looks rude? Perhaps by staying in you would have made the point that it is absolutely foul and disgusting to leave a garden covered in dog shit, even if it is your own garden! Bet her neighbours love her.

YANBU - you're not being precious. If I were your sister and I knew you'd be bringing your toddler with you, I'd have definietly cleaned it up before you came over, expecially in nice weather like today.

Apart from anything else, it must smell awful!

She would be wishing she'd cleaned up if ds had trodden the stuff all back in through her house!!!

In fact - our next door neighbours (who are the loveliest couple imaginable) used to let their dog shit on their front lawn and didn't clear it up. There were always many piles of poos in various stages of decomposition out there - it was gross.

I eventually plucked up the courage to ask her if she would mind clearing it up, which they did - but imagine being OK with that outside your front door