To tell work to feck off?

[Wigglesworth]

I have just been told that I have been unsuccessful in getting promoted at work. I have been on maternity leave since June and go back to work in April. In my promotion board interview I had to come up with an innovative idea to improve the way we do things and give a presentation on this.
One member of the panel on the interview board delivered the bad news to me but said that everyone had good ideas and they may still use the ideas even if they were not successful in getting the position. AIBU to tell them that I think it's really fucking out of order to use people like that and that if I wasn't good enough to be promoted then I don't think they should use my idea?
I have worked really fucking hard for over 7 years and done way above and beyond my role description and feel like I have been shat on from a great height.

Don't blame you for being grumpy but I'm afraid for me YABU to withdraw your idea.
Don't think it'll help you in anyway shape or form in the future with your work place. But if it helps, it's worth remembering that pretty much all of us get shafted from time to time and I think the nature of the beast is that you grin and bare it most of the time unless it's totally outrageous. Doesn't mean it doesn't piss you off, but you're certainly not alone. Anyone who says they never take any crap from their boss... well most of the time I wouldn't believe them.

YABU, take it as a compliment that they want to use your idea.

I think that happens quite a lot at interviews. Gathering ideas or a little bit of insuder gen from people who have applied from similar/competitor organisations.

I can fully understand your frustration as you have just been turned down for promotion and it will feel like a huge rejection. But you must try to not take it personally. Have the weekend to simmer about it and feel sorry for yourself - heck, have until April! But then you've got to pick yourself up again, pretend it doesn't bother you, be confident and if it comes up, say you are very flattered they liked your idea.

Agree, agree. And don't forget to bring it up in next pay negotiations etc. Better still get the fact they like dyour idea in writing, always useful for the future, whatever it rbings.

I think you'd blow them away if you said "thanks for the constructive feedback from the interview and I know what areas I need to work on now [please say they didn't just knock you back and nick the idea] and if you do want to take my idea forward I'd be happy to work with the successful candidate to implement it".

Really sorry you didn't get the job and completely sympathise with how you're feeling (and also think a more honest organisation would have said up front they might decide to take the ideas forward without the candidate) but a little lip service to the "corporate" ideal might pay off, you never know. It's showing you as putting the good of the firm above your own needs (other than by the "working your bollocks off" angle that somehow fails to impress managers ) and should be a win-win for you. Alternatively you could subtley manipulate your rival into failing dreadfully and then step into the breach

Good point bumbling and pointy. I did loads of stuff before going on maternity leave and I just feel so shafted, guess I am a bit bitter. I just don't feel like doing them any favours when I go back and stopping doing all the extra stuff I used to do before. These have been the first lot of promotions for 7 years and they only happened cos a competitor has opened up on our door step and they shat themselves cos everyone started leaving.

It's even harder when lots of changes go on at work when you are on maternity leave. Very unsettling.

OMG pointy that's exactly it, of all the people that were interviewed 2 of us were on mat leave and one was due to go on mat leave and all of us really deserved the positions and didn't get them. I am sure that our situation had absolutely no bearing on their decision whatsoever .

I was in your position exactly this last year. In my case the man who got the promotion was someone who prior to my M/L I had line managed!

With a year's persepctive on it though I can honestly say it was the best thing to happen to me in some time. I went back to that job for three months then got another job (at a higher grade) in the same organisation. I LOVE my new role - which gives me absoultely everything I need and is with a great team of people. Looking at the overall pattern of things which happened before and after my M/L I believe I was discriminated against - but it was the push I needed to go somewhere much better - both in the present and longer term - so I can't be too bitter.

Tribpot, i love your last idea, sabotage it is!

Must admit I went back to work just over two years ago and still never feel like doing anyone any favours any more. But think that's just me, I worked my arse off for 20 years before having DS and now I just can't be bothered. What's it for. I can't get flexible working so its 24/7 or nothing so I do what I can within my available time. and the rest of the time, well xxxk em. Won't help me, young ones snapping at my heals etc. Ho hum.

Once you have kids you realise there is no equality in the work place. I know so many people who've been shafted while pregnant, on maternity, just back etc. Including me. It all stinks.

Get pissed off over the weekend and then never, ever forget, you're taking the buggers' money and it's paying for what really matters.

Fell for you though. Arses!

Ahem. That's feel foryou. Though obviously if you needed it I'd fell for you too Wiggles.