to try and stop my DS's relationships with some friends?

[oldladygarden]

My DS is 4 and at nursery. He has lots of friends and is happy there. The problem is that the group of friends he has made are not what I would deem as suitable.For instance I would not feel happy for my DS to go to their houses without me/ I have heard stories and witnessed behaviour that I do want around my boy. They will more than likely be going to the same school as DS.

invite them round to yours, get to know them a bit? what else can you do.... these are his peer group. are there others on the class you do consider suitable?? if so invite them round too. are you sure you're not being a judgmental snob??

I have got to know them and that is why i don't want them to be DS's peer group. There will be lots of other (hopefully) more suitable friends at school. Yes I am a snob if that means I have standards.

It depends what the reasons are.

YABU if it because you are worried they will taint your DS's 'perfect' accent.

YANBU if you're worried that his dad will teach him the best way to tell you to feck off.

YABVU You selected the nursery, if you aren't happy with the 'suitability' of the children who attend then move him to another nursery.

You are also deluded if you think you can tell a 4 year old who he can and can't play with at nursery. You can control who he socialises with outside, but you can't control who he 'wants' to socialise with.

What do you not like about these other children? If they are a bit grubby or might take your PFB to Mcdonalds then get over yourself. If the families are all members of the local Firm or think nothing of passing the spliff to the 4-year-old then you might have a point.

4 year olds will play with anyone really. You can't control who he plays with in school but of course it's up to you whether you let him go to anyones house and who you invite to yours. Most people screen their dcs friends this way. At least until they get to be teenagers.

Can you elaborate on the 'standards' please? Bit of a catch all phrase - as per solidgold's post...