To expect people to do what they say??

[lowenergylightbulb]

Last week my father said that he had put a cheque in the post to pay for a half term day out for me and the kids. Which is a lovely thought.

When the cheque didn't arrive today I phoned him because I was worried that it might have been lost or stolen. It turns out that he hadn't posted the cheque yet!!

Finances are really tight at the moment, so any days out (i.e to a place that you have to pay to go into or drive/use public transport to get to!) are on the backburner. And we've already done the park twice this week

I know it's not my fathers responsibility to give me money, but I feel so let down. This isn't the first time he's done this and it won't be the last.

AIBU to rely on my parents to follow through on promises? Or am I being a bit precious?!

its not unreasonable for you to be upset that he has told youhe did it but then found out he hadn't.

I think that in future you should try not to bank on him sending anything until you actually have the cheque.

I can understand your disappointment, but the best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour, so maybe you were a bit over-optimistic in expecting your father to follow through with his promise.

Where were you going to go with the money? Have you looked online for special offers in your area?

Sorry you've been let down.

Is there anything that you can book over the phone or online that you could call your Dad back and say not to worry sending the cheque, he can call and pay direct as it'll be easier and you'll still be able to get a day out in half term.. would he do that?

Ooh, good idea.
Ask him to book directly.

I can also understand your disapointment and even more if he has done this in the past.

Dont give it any thought in the future then you cant be disapointed.

My ils did this last summer, promised ds they would take him to Chester zoo during the holidays...never did, so have asked if they can take him this week for the day...not mentioned it to ds and i am not holding my breath although they did ring last night to check if it was still ok to take him on Friday so maybe.....

I've given myself a slap, 2 weeks ago I had my half term plans sorted. And my plans aren't changed.

It just saddens me that my parents aren't really involved in my life/the childrens. My AIBU stems from the fact that I'd love parents who babysat from time to time, spent time with their grandchildren, came round for dinner etc.

They're not bad parents/people, they just prioritise things in their own way. Ho hum.

YANBU - cheques are soooooo late 90s

Ask him to transfer the money it your account.

My ps do this or give me cold hard cash

Morningtown - you know terry and june, that's my parents. The computer era passed them by!