To cry because my 13mo has decided to stop BF?

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I have a DD (26mo) and a DS (13mo).
We decided to cut down his bf as he was waking several times between 12 and 7 for a feed. I was knackered because I haven't had a full nights sleep since I was preg with DD and my body was becoming very run down.
I started to give him a sports bottle of milk / water when he asked for a snacky feed.
All was going well until we went for a night out. I had far too much wine so decided not feed during the night. Still felt pissed at 7am so didn't feed him then either. He had a cup of milk before bed.
Within 3 days he had weaned himself. He prefers to walk around and drink from his cup as he can drink a large voulume of fluid quickly and continue playing with his sister. BF meant his was stuck with me until he finished so he decided that cups were the way forward.
He has had a few 30 sec sooks since then but he pulls away and makes it clear he does not like the taste.
His nappies have been yucky since he stopped bf and he has had a cold (his first one since he was 4 weeks old).
I did express to try and give him BM but DH said just to let it go and give my body a rest.
I know that this is awfully self pittying but I just feel sad because when he is upset or hurt I automatically whip out a boob to console him. This just upsets him even more because he hates the taste of the milk
Since it was entirely my fault that he stopped BF (getting drunk and refusing to BF him) , am I being unreasonable to cry?

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No, sweetie, YANBU.

No YANBU.
I bawled when ds1 decided he'd had enough of BFing at 6mths and I bawled when DS2 stopped at 9mths!
Have a good cry..and then go and have a hot curry and a bottle of wine and you'll feel a lot better!

'Timeisablindguide' you and I need to get to bed methinks ...!! Yanbu OP. We are all just doing what we can and shouldnt feel bad about our feelings. Never BF mine at all as it was too late by the time we left the special care unit. Couldnt do nayhting to change it. You take care.

lol gobsmacked

My excuse is that we had a long journey this evening and didn't get back til late so by time we got ds1 and ds2 to bed and flopped ourselves, I hadn't the energy to do anything intelligent - so came on MN to see what amusing threads were around!!

you are NOT being unreasonable at`all!!!!!!!!!!!! if ds decided to stop nursing in a month i would be devastated!!! and it is NOT "all your fault" - you didn't nurse him because you thought it would be safer for him not to - who could have known he'd react like that? you were trying to do the best thing for him, don't beat yourself up.
big hugs sweetie. i feel for you.

YABU if you're blaming yourself! You did the sensible thing not bfing him in your 'condition'

If you'd known he was going to wean himself off would you have bf him while drunk to stop it?

babies go off it eventually, don't blame yourself

you sound like a lovely mum

please don't be upset - he has just taken another developmental step is all. I know that you probably will miss the closeness and it is a sign of him not being the baby anymore etc, but hey - thats a good thing too. I agree with your DH, give yourself a well deserved rest. I don't think it was your fault at all - i think he probably would have weaned himself sometime soon anyway - thats the way of nature, we BF while they need it. He is still your baby boy - and will be even when he is 35, but i think that would be taking the extended BF a tad too far .

oh it is very upsetting, very upsetting
and not your fault at all
has this just happened recently - do you think you could tempt him back on? it might be worth searching for 'nursing strike' on here and on kellymom to get more information
but if this is the end, well, you have done a wonderful thing by feeding him for 13 months, and that great start will last him for the rest of his life
your relationship is about so much more than breastfeeding, even though it was a lovely part of it
but you won't forget that, it will become something very lovely to look back on and will be a source of happiness for you again