... to think that some people just decide not to see the good in MN.

[LilRedWG]

I lost my Dad last week and I have so much love and support from people on MN that it has helped me cope. I wish that all the people coming on here to say it is bitchy and snipey would realise that it's a damned good place, with some fantastic support!

LilRedwig - i am glad you started this thread as i wanted to post on your other thread but i lost my dad to lung cancer too so i couldn't go there. I am so sorry for your loss.

I totally agree with you - The thing is, those people are just posting because they are bored!! They just want to stir up a hornets nest - or is it nest of vipers! I just don't even bother with those posts as i never get there early enough to say - don't let the door whack your fat arse on the way out - as someone has always beaten me to it!

There is, sadly, an element of bitchiness on this site, we can't deny that - those posts generally being a good example. But i have to tell you that as someone who has been on the recieving end of bitchiness and flaming in the past that actually - THIS SITE SAVED MY LIFE!! That might well sound over dramatic, but without this site i probably wouldn't have approached my GP about my PND and i was on a VERY slippery slope. People don't always post what i want to hear, its quite tough to hear home truths but this is the place to get them. If im feeling delicate i don't post on AIBU but i generally do as i know i will get an honest opinion and can sift out the baiters.

Im glad you have felt supported too LilRedWG - you have to be kind to yourself over the next few weeks, although you will surprise yourself too. My dad was poorly for such a long time i had already done my greiving really. But it still stops me in my tracks sometimes and he died 3 years ago - feels like yesterday - but you manage, and you ARE happy, because if like me, you have a wonderful dad, the love he gave you will always stay with you xxx

LilRedWG, so sorry for your loss and I agree with your op

LucyEllensmummy, thats a really nice post. I lost my dad over 10 yrs ago and I can see him in my sons, its true the love never goes away.

MN is just like a rl family or community.

Sometimes people are bitchy, sometimes they are mischievous, sometimes they are bored, sometimes they are amusing.

But when it matters, when one of us needs support or even something more, we all (well, mostly) pull together and prove that whatever MN is, it is a community. A real, old fashioned community where people actually care about other people.

Even if you have never actually met those real people.

And people who don't get it, well, they're never going to because they are looking for something different.

much love lilred
xx

Thank you all.

LEM - thank you so much for that post. I'm sorry that you lost your Dad this way too.

YANBU.
On MN (as in everything else) you take the bad with the good. Avoid what you don't like and appreciate what you do. I've seen threads on here where people really rally round with fantastic support. And at least on here, you know that if people are being supportive, then it is genuine. People on here tend to be straight up, no false sympathy, and I like that.

Sorry to hear about your Dad OP.

AnnVan you are spot on with that- no false sympathy so when people are lovely and supportive it's because they mean it.
I love MN for that.

LilRed, I'm sorry to hear about your dad

So sorry about your Dad LilRedW.

I think MN is great.

Very sorry about your Dad LilRedWG.
I heart MN. Squonk is right. It is like an extended family... and you always get a few weird ones.

So sorry LilRedWG

I agree with you btw.