to expect dh to spend time with me on our anniversary?

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It's our anniversary and all our dc's are at grandparents for a few nights. I thought it would be lovley to spend the night in together with a bottle of wine & a nice meal...... apparently not!! Dh has decided that he needs to work late and then go to a training session as he missed last week cos of the snow. AIBU?

No YANBU! Ok he can't (maybe) help working late but a training session? Have the nice meal and bottle of wine yourself. (and lock the front door. Mwa ha ha.....)

lol! thanks... feeling slightly saner now!

i don't make a fuss of our anniversary - rarely buy cards or celebrate as such. ours was 10 years this January and we didn't really acknowledge it, except to say "happy anniversary" and cook something vaguely posh for dinner! but if he'd actually chosen to be elsewhere I'd still be really peed off. YANBU!

have you mentioned doing anything to celebrate previously? is that why the dcs are elsewhere? because that seems odd to me. i'd be feeling very put out about this and want some assurance that this training and working late is really sooo important that it can't wait until another night.

dcs are away cos its half term and is a cheap alternative to childcare as we both work. We had decided to celebrate at home but he "remembered" last night that he couldn't possibly miss this training session. grrrr.

If the training session can't wait suggest that he can make it up to you another night. If the grandparents are willing to babysit again, he'll have no excuses and can take you out somewhere nice to compensate.

the date is only a number after all, so it doesn't really matter if you do it another time, as long as he genuinely wants to.

when you say he "remembered" he had to work, it sounds like you're not sure he ever planned to stay in and celebrate, in which case you might need to have a talk about it to find out why.

Depends how important your anniversary is to you both. We always celebrate because to us, it is important. For us, it is a special date and therefore, our personal celebration is always on the date. If we are celebrating with others, it may be that we do that on another date, the weekend for example,but we still always do something for the two of us on the day. So yes, I would be very p*8d off if my DH suddenly remembered he had to go training or whatever on the date.