to be a bit pissed but unhappy?

[papoose]

OK so I am a bit drunk but it takes this to make me admit that I am not happy with my situation. I got together with DP thinking that he could pay his way but that is not the case. He has 2 DDs from previous relationship. We have since had DD (3 mths )but he has not got a proper job so I am the breadwinner. So I have to go back to work when DD is 9 mths old and he will be a SAHD. Whereas I know that I will be resentful as I would rather be a SAHM. Feeling resentful because we live in my flat and he does not pay his way. Love him to bits but know that he will never be the breadwinner. feeling resentful AIBU??

I know ( re prior commitments).. I wish I had considered the issues before hand. But I have been with him 4 years. No matter how you try to prepare yourself, you can't ever foresee how it is until you are in that situation.

So prior to meeting me he was a sales person within financial markets. No call for that anymore unfortunately.
I know, we have had cards on table discussions. He feels emasculated and unhappy that he cant provide. So I can't really force the issue can i?

The only solution is to be the breadwinner (and be grateful I have a job).

I am thankful for what I have and must not worry and I still have 6 mths before going back. But I dont want to at all and feel very sad!!!!

So, who is paying for his other kids?

I would say YABU for not wanting to work to support your DD, but I can see why you wouldn't want to work to support his ex and his DD's too...

But, it doesn't sound like he's done this on purpose, so I think he doesn't deserve a hard time.

part of being a parent is yes you provide,and if you are bigger wage earner.then you compromise

interestingly you talk about "your" flat.how cohesive do you feel with DP

but yes you have another 6mth mat leave.don't become preoccupied.enjoy baby time

It's how you feel - nothing unresonable about it. Not talking would be unreasonable