To want to smother my DH with a large pillow......

[5inthebed]

when I get up for night feeds with our ds3 at stupid o clock, and can hear his contented snoring drifting downstairs. I almost feel like he is bragging that he is asleep in our cosy warm bed and I am awake in the middle of the night freezing my toes off?

Its his (once a week) turn to do the night feeds tonight, and I really want to be make loud sleeping noises just to annoy him

5inthebed - you need to be MUCH harder on your DH. If he is not doing 50% of everything at night he is not pulling his weight. He only gets up once a week - start as you mean to go on the baby is now 12 weeks old and I am sure Dad can warm a bottle up. Ease him in to it by announcing that you expect him to do Friday, Saturday and Sunday night and then he can sleep during the week when he is going to work.

I understand your pain! That's how it was with us before I went back to work- DH slept in at night while I was up doing feedings. I made sure he did it on the weekends (when I wasn't nursing anymore, that is) and now thankfully DS sleeps through the night. The hard part was, even when it was his night to get up, DH would sleep through the crying until I woke him up, so I had to wake up anyway! ARRGH! I DEFINITELY wanted to do bodily harm to him on those nights.

i am so impressed that some dads get up to babies in the night before work the next day.
my dp never gets up for the baby because he feels there is nothing he can do to settle her as i breast feed.

having read this i'm a bit jealous

he does let me lie in with the baby on a weekend while he gets up ewith other 2.

still jealous tho!

I feel your pain. It used to drive me bananas - and now I know that I was being utterly unreasonable. He can't help snoring, and I couldn't expect him to breastfeed the baby, but it totally felt like his snoring was rubbing my nose in my sleep-deprived misery.

I never stabbed him, or suffocated him, but one night I wrote obscenities all over his face with a marker pen while he slept and I fed. Made me feel a lot better

I know that this is no comfort at all, but it won't be forever.

Leo9, I was obviously having a baby brain moment. Having re-read your previous post, I totally got wht you said

Abetadad, could you move in here please, you sound lovely

FF, I like your style

OMG freckleface you're my twin lol

I drew some norty things on ExP's bum once when i had to get up on his turn after he had faithfully promised.... took photo's of it and sent it round the place he worked which happened to be the local council lol

ExP wasn't DS1's dad but he was wonderful and supportive.

Now living in another country

Now i'm happy to be getting up with my DS2, i see it as more time i spend with him, he's 4 weeks already it flies past..he won't be a baby forever and in the meantime as tired as i am, i can breathe in his warm baby smell and cuddle him .. DP doesn't get dragged out of bed but he also misses what i feel is special time with baby too

Won't be saying THAT when he's kept me up all night but then i can post on here and you lot can laugh at my past smugness lol